Are you an unfit mother if you are not working living at home with your parents and living off of the child support that you get?

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I wonder and wonder everyday am Ian unfit mother? I do not do drugs, or alcohol, a 100 % of my time for the babies( dad deployed), clean clothes , healthy foods , going out to the park lto the ibrary evereywhere, but I still feel unfit Why? is there any mother that feels she is a good mother? all of a sudden I saw myself married and with two babies in a row, at least I gave them a sibbling that is by far the best gift I could have ever given them.
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All of what you described in the question does not in itself make you an unfit mother. It is how a mother treats her children that would bring legitimate suggestions of 'unfit mothering.' Since this has been placed in 'law' I am assuming it is more than just a passing comment from someone on your mothering abilities. If they were lacking in food, clothing, education, reasonable living conditions or health care that would be considered 'unfit' mothering. Also, a mother's addictions or lifestyle may in some instances add to the decision. If any of what I've mentioned is possibly the problem, try to get counselling help. Usually this is available free to those on low incomes.

If you feel you have been wrongly accused with unfit mothering, seek legal aid, which also should be available for little or no cost to certain people. This can happen from time to time, from false reports or misapplication of the law. Custody battles often bring this sort of accusation. You will need good advice from someone who specializes in these cases.

If you know in your heart that you do your best for your children, remember that they will almost certainly not agree with whoever said this. Children know if they are loved. Most stay-at-home mothers aren't social parasites and are doing a profitable and worthwhile job whether or not others see it that way.