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Are you kidding yourself if you've been standing your ground and telling him he's wrong and abusive but he still continues verbal abuse after counseling or will it get better?
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∙ 12y ago
It really is best that you separate while he is getting counseling. Abusers are about control and you've been his victim, so things aren't about to continue. When you remind him of his abuse he considers the fact that YOU are getting the upper hand and he'll have none of that.
Talk to him and tell him you are separating for awhile while he goes through couseling because you feel you're holding him back (and mean it!) Then leave and wait to see what happens. Don't give in because all you will be doing is enabling his behavior.
No, abusive men seldom will listen to a counselor about their problem and many abusers never will see a counselor. Abusers are about control, and NO ONE is going to tell them have to run their lives. He's proven that he is not listening to his counselor (if he is even seeing one or keeping his appointments) because he's still at you.
Good luckMarcy
Yes you are fooling yourself. When an abuser sees you standing up for yourself more the panic. They panic that you may leave them. So what they do is fake nice (honeymoon stage) with the hope you wont leave. They will be agreeable, contrite, non-argumentative, and pleasant. But believe me, in their mind they are mad as hell that you are challenging their authority and its just a matter of time until its payback time. Then they will be even more controlling as they feel your slipping away and the only way to reestablish their authority is to make sure they squash the thought that you can stand up for yourself. He will wait patiently. These types are very manipulative and they are all about control.
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When dealing with an abusive boyfriend how can you tell the difference between standing up for yourself and using emotional blackmail or even becoming abusive yourself?
Standing up for yourself is simply saying that you will no longer tolerate abusive behavior, and backing it up by leaving it if does not stop. You cannot "deal" with abusers. If they refuse to get counseling, you need to get away from them. Untreated, abuse almost always gets worse with time.
Im abusive to my girlfriend i need help?
you certainly do. Turn yourself in to the nearest police station. Both of you needs couples counseling as well as separate counseling.
How do you help someone who is in an emotionally abusive relationship?
Abusive relationships are some of the most difficult ones to resolve. THis type of relationship assumes that one partner is abusive and continues to be so because there is no response to the abuse. The difference here centers on "self-assurance." The abusive partner continues his or her behavior because there is no response. I can not suggest how the abused party should respond because in most instances they feel diminished. This situation can only be resolved through extended counseling, if at all.
Defending yourself against an abusive husband?
---- Call the police, if the abuse continues, then leave him and never go back. ----
Who is the abuser in your marriage if you have been married for 19 years and you once slapped your husband in the face when he called you a slut?
Both of you are abusive to each other. You need counseling. Family counseling and anger management counseling.
How do you deal with a verbally abusive boyfriend without breaking up with him?
It is important to set boundaries and communicate assertively with your boyfriend about the impact of his behavior. Consider seeking couples therapy or individual counseling to address the underlying issues. If the abusive behavior continues, prioritize your safety and well-being and consider seeking support from friends, family, or a support group.
Is it possible that your ex abusive husband to change when he remarried and shows stable signs of not being abusive to his second wife?
Possible, but not likely for him to change on his own without serious counseling.
Why should you not go to couples counseling if in an abusive relationship?
Because, nobody wants help to stay with somebody who abuses you.
What do I do if my Husband is abusive towards me and expects me to just do what he says while he does the opposite.?
You should try marriage counseling. It helped me a lot.
If an abusive father does not believe he has a problem will counseling help?
yes but if hes refusing to accept the problem then he might refuse to go and see a councillor
Your bf of 2yrs left you a wk ago today mentally abusive bilpolar he still calls you and hangs up on you then calls you again what shud you do i devoted my life to him it's very hard for me to let go?
Get YOURSELF into counseling and get away.CHANGE YOUR PHONE NUMBER and take out a restraining order if necessary.
Is there a way for a woman to continue some kind of relationship with a man she loves who is abusive?
Both need to go to counseling or it won't work,and it has to be long term!
