Can a man really love his wife if he sleeps around with other women?

Answer 1

The important question I think is not whether a married man can love his wife and other women but should he? People are capable of loving many people in a variety of relationships, but a married man that really loves his wife is not usually going to love other women at the same time because that dishonors his wife which is not a very good way of demonstrating love for another person, especially a spouse.

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Can a married man? the answer on top is right, we all can love lots of people in a different way, like close friend, the god parents of our child and so on. But for you to ask if a married man can love his wife and the other woman called "mistress" is very wrong. How can a man love his wife if he will hurt her by loving another woman his having an affair with. How can you love your wife by having 2 different life? We will not talk about "the bills of right" but we can talk about what's right and what's wrong.

Maybe you love your wife but not 100%, your family is your security away from the other woman. Your wife is your "jack of all trade" and the other woman is your fun life. Your wife is the one that do dishes, wash your dirty clothes, cook your meal, hear you snore, if theres children she's the one that take care of them, wait for you to come home and so many things. Your other woman deserve your love because all she does is to make you happy. Maybe listen to you talk and the most fun you take her out to a nice dinner while your wife cook and wait for you.

All of the qualities I wrote here, the man that I married did to his mistress, so now how do you think I felt when the man that I married told me that he loves his mistress? Is is Christian way or selfish way?

Answer 2

I think peoples idea of love varies so much that many people don't know what love is. Love is not wanting to hurt the other no matter what. But does a man not love his wife if he cheats on her. Well, he is probably praying he will not get caught. sadly though a wife can smell another woman even if it's emotional affair - not yet physical. How' that you ask? Because a woman is in tune to her man and so any thing her man does that's new or goes against his usual ways of doing things or thinking and she is put on alert that's how.

And I have to tell all young wives that your husbands aren't the people they have you believing they are. They are much more human, make mistakes, and look at other women when you aren't around (if they doing it with you around you already got trouble - get out now while you still can - before the babies come)

I actually know two women who don't care if their husbands cheats. One simply hates sex so it takes all pressure off her to have sex with her husband and the other woman plays the field herself because her husbands seldom home and when he is he is an A-hole (her words) but she loves him. And I believe her.

So this question is really an answer no one can answer. It depends on the people involved and is far more complicated than a simple yes or no answer.

Many men will probably say yes, while many women will say no. I have it all day, I am a woman, and yet I say yes. It doesn't mean that it's OK to violate your spouse's trust in such a way, but life is complicated, and people are far from being perfect. Besides, not all affairs are the same. Some may be simply a physical business, while in other cases, the cheating spouse is emotionally involved.

ANSWER No. People REALLY enjoying throwing the "L" word around. What some people say is love, is NOT actually love! True love means more than just living with someone, saying "I love you", and sharing the same bed. To love someone means to be faithful, honest, respectful, kind, and thoughtful. Screwing someone on the side equates to selfishness, thoughtlessness, and idiocy. If someone cheats, it means that they do not respect their spouse, nor the VOW that they made when they got married. Being faithful and honest is not related to religion, or conservative views, or any other crap that people drone on about. It is about LOVING someone, respecting them, caring about them, and never EVER wanting to hurt them. NO ONE who feels real love towards their spouse would risk their emotionally well-being and sense of trust for a bit of physical gratification! If you cheat, it means you don't truly love the one you're with. If someone cheats on you, then that person doesn't REALLY love you. It may be possible for someone to cheat, and still care about the one they're cheating on (to some small degree), but this is not enough. This is not love, and you deserve better!

Now, I'm sure there are cases where people are mutually freaky, and like to dip into things outside the marriage, but they do so WITH EACH OTHERS KNOWLEDGE AND CONSENT. Maybe these types of people do love each other at times. Whatever. The main thing is that they care enough to be honest with each other, thereby keeping each other from being emotionally hurt.

** This is very true: LOVE is OVER rated and RESPECT is UNDER rated when it comes to relationships.

ANSWER

Yes he can, it seems that western style religious rules are the only measure of love. The fact is there are literally millions of marriage relationships where there is more then one wife and where there is love for more then one person at a time. These men love their wives and take their responsibility towards them seriously. Granted there would be exactly the same problems with incompatibility, abuse, etc, etc that you would find in western marriages based on our religious rules. Remember our "Western styled" marriage rules are based on a religion whose founders had no problem at all with institutionalised infidelity or polygamy if you like.

Many men can both make love to a wife and simply have sex with a one-night stand. The one-night stand being only a physical enjoyment. For a man they can easily be two totally unrelated things; sex need not equal love. Men never attempt to express this to wives and girlfriends because for the majority women (but not all) sex simply for pleasure, without love, is a completely foreign and unthinkable concept.

A man can love his wife if he sleeps around but there is a difference between love and true love. The question you want to ask yourself is, do you think he is really happy if he has to search for other ways to be loved, or feel good. There are many reasons why people cheat, could be things like, loneliness (doesn't feel like his spouse is giving him the attention he needs, how how it used to be so he's searching in other ways), curiosity (if you got together at a young age and he never got the chance to really grow up and find himself he might be curious as to what other women are like and see if he is missing out on something), low self- esteem (may not feel good enough for you or good enough for himself so he is in search of self-esteem by getting compliments from other women), there are many reasons men do cheat. Many say that it is for the physical reasons but there are times that it is the emotional reasons. He could also just want to have sex a lot because it feels great and he likes the thrill of sneaking around behind your back. I once heard a guy say to his girlfriend just after he gave her a promise ring and told her how much he loved her walk over to a group of guys say, "ha ha your cheating yourself if you don't cheat on em". You can choose to do what you want with someone that does that but chances are if he's already doing this he probably wont stop.. he may still love you but is unsure of himself, and figures since he's already ruined being faithful there's no reason to stop now. You may wont to think of the saying "once a cheater, always a cheater" You can do what you want with this

Please don't change this answer, I'd like it to remain the way I write it ..

He just has a different idea of love. It is not a healthy relationship. I know a couple a lot like that. I met him before I met her and he wasn't married as far as I was concerned. Then I met her. We are good friends. I have never told her all that I know because she wouldn't want to know and it wouldn't change anything anyway. They have a very odd relationship. They are very much in love, but if he is away for work and the opportunity arises, I'm sure he'd take it. And she never wants to know. Maybe the people you know have a similar "understanding." But yes, it is possible for him to love her. He may just be a sex addict and can't help it.

I would answer Yes to this question because maybe the man is bored with his current love life and wants something exciting, doesn't mean he doesn't love his wife. He just needs a outlet.

This question can be quite confusing. perhaps the man has got bored of the same old sex, and has lost the "spark" in their sex life, but not as far as their feelings for each other. So the man may think that if he goes out and has sex with someone else, then he will be satisfied and the strain on his marriage or in his proper relationship will go away.

Depending on a person's upbringing a person may not really know what love is. They may be doing what they were brought up to do. This may tend to confuse a person who was brought up in a loving household verses one who had many different men or women in the household. Once true love, which is a godly one, the husband will not have any more desires of sleeping or being with anyone else but her.

Sure he can as long as he finds in other women nothing but sexual pleasure.

The answer is yes, but is not in the sense of adult sexual love....most men after time spent in long marriages tend to see their original partner as a mother figure..these men are also financially committed to these women through shared business interests as well and the cost to them for the sake of a "what if" affair to leave the financial cost is too great.

Having 4 wives! ..... Whoa! Most men can't handle one wife in the Western culture and I don't care where in the world this happens, there is nothing worse than "the wrath of a woman scorned!" They don't tell you that those 4 wives battle amongst themselves and the last wife gets the worst of it. By the way, modern culture is sneaking quietly into Islam and is changing! Also, when God mentioned "man" he meant ALL HUMANS and didn't leave the female sex out of it!

Yes, there are some men that can love their wives very much, but are a lover of ALL women. One movie I thoroughly enjoyed was "Scent of a Woman" with Al Pacino. He was blind, had been married once, but he enjoyed ALL women and each were unique. Because of his blindness he could smell and feel what a woman felt and thus realized all women were unique in their own way. The way he expressed himself was heart-warming and it made a woman feel special. However, once married neither partner should stray and it's simply cheating. Personally, I wouldn't put up with it!

ANSWER Well alrighty then. Here goes.... I guess it's all in personal belief. I've read the previous replies and they all seem to go in the same opposite direction. Please, no one be offended by that last statement.. At any rate....I would have to say yes, he really does love his wife. The best way to explain his actions is; a man has an animal instinct, he can't control his lust to be with many partners. Think about it like this; a woman can only be pregnant once in a 9 month period, where as, a man has the ability to get hundreds of women pregnant in that time. The natural design of life, is to reproduce... This is just the path he has chosen... It's a shame that some men can't control themselves enough to be faithful to their special lady. And one more thing it has been proven that a man can engage in sex with no emotions attached, unlike a woman. Even if the woman thinks that she has no attachment, there are parts of her brain that she can't control..... All things considered, It brings me to a close... Remember, you must never seek the perfect person, instead seek to find an imperfect person, perfect. His ways will never change, you must accept them or move on.

Adding something to this, he can. It's a thing that happened in my family. One of my uncles told me he slept with other women before but he still loved my aunt.....

Answer 3

I think you can love more than one person. You love many children, why cant you love more than one person? I think it can happen, I just wouldn't cheat on someone I loved.

Answeryes a man can love two women.

ANSWER;

Can he? yes he can. There are some married men, ordinary and good christian

that have this problem, I called this a problem because man that do this never thought of others except himself.

If this is you, why in a world can you love 2 women at the same time? We only have one heart and this heart belongs to just one person. How can you leave your life knowing that you love 2 women at the same time. This is the job of someone that can help you.

Answer 4

• It depends on the race of the person and often a man can be married to a wife and still sleep with another woman. If this is not the case it's time for the wife to kick his butt right out that door! You are enabling his behavior by allowing him to sleep with another woman in your house. Give him a choice; stay with you or he leaves with the other woman. If he refuses to leave then start divorce proceedings by getting legal counsel.

Answer 5

no way some1 who does that is just an annyoing person

Answer 6

Yes he might love her as a good friend not as a lover they should talk about it mabye get a divorces

Answer 7

No- MOST DEFINITELY NOT BUT CHANCES ARE THAT THIS MAN IS EMOTIONALLY DAMAGED WITH A DEFICIENCY FOR REAL LOVE.

HE MAY THINK HE LOVES HER BUT IN FACT HE IS REALLY UNABLE TO LOVE ANYONE INCLUDING HIMSELF.

IT'S TRULY SAD ESPECIALLY FOR THE WOMAN WHO IS AWARE AND HOPES AND PRAYS AND CONTINUES TO LOVE HIM DESPITE THE NON-STOP LIES. IT REALLY TAKES THE LIFE OUT HER OR HIM TILL IT'S ALL GONE INCLUDING HER HEARSE.

YET HE STILL CONTINUES TO HAVE NO SELF CONTROL AT ALL.

HE STILL SAYS HE LOVES HER WELL KNOWING THAT THE LIFE AND SELF WORTH HE HAS ROBBED HER OF HAS TURNED INTO A COMPLETE FAILURE TO THRIVE. HE PROBABLY WON'T EVEN BAT AN EYE AS SHE WITHERS TO NOTHING.

FOR THE WOUNDED MAY EVEN TAKE THERE OWN LIFE. THEY ARE SO TORN APART BY SUCH DECEIT AND BETRAYAL.

VERY FEW AS IN 5-15% OF PEOPLE WITH HISTORYS OF CHRONIC CHEATING WILL NEVER BE ABLE TO BE FAITHFUL.

BUT IN THE END EVEN IF THE PERSON THAT WAS BETRAYED ENDS UP DEAD OR HOMELESS OR JUST DISTRAUGHT TO THE POINT OF NEVER TRUSTING ANYONE AGAIN OR DIES, THE BETRAYER WILL USUALLY NEVER LEARN AND WILL CEASE TO HAVE ANYONE AT THEIR SIDE IN THE END AND FRANKLY I DON'T THINK THEY CARE OR CAN NOT CARE TO FACE IT.

IF THEY HAVEN'T CHANGED BY AGE 50- GET YOURSELF A NOOSE OR GET THE FRICK OUT AND MOVE ACCROSS THE COUNTRY.

THEN WHEN THEY COME TO GET YOU BACK AND ARE PREPARED TO REALLY SHOW YOU LOVE, NOT BY SAYING IT BUT BUT SHOWING IT, UNTIL THEY TOO FEEL THE COMPLETE ANGUISH YOU HAVE THEN MAYBE JUST MAYBE THEY MIGHT HAVE LEARNED.

MOST PROBABLE THERE IS A CHANCE.

JUST DON'T CHEAT BECAUSE IN THE END IT'S ONLY TH THAT ENDS UP CHEATED.

DON'T LOSE LOVE HANG ON TO IT. BUT ONLY IF IT'S HEALTHY LOVE

SO MANY OF IS ARE ON THE LOOK OUT FOR HAPPY AND UNFORTUNATELY WE LOSE IT BEFORE WE APPRECIATE IT AND THEN IT'S GONE.......