Treatment of Narcissistic Personality Disorder usually consists of individual, group or family therapy, structure (scheduling one's time so that there are no long periods of unplanned time), support,...
You must accept the fact that you will get an argument from your daughter. Why would any adult being provided for want to give up the good life? Check out Meyer's "Marriages, Shack-ups and Other...
You don't. Period. If you have your heart set on neatness, then YOU put things away and do the cleaning. But, be sure you do it with a kind heart. If you cannot, then you may need to let it go and...