there is no way to get non members members stuff. and even if they where able to give them stuff they wouldn't be able to use it. it would just turn gray.
Ecto is for both members and non-members (Basic members). 060 Ecto the Fancy Banshee [Spookie] Red Love Berries, Black Love Berries, any Hot Silly Pepper
When their membership times out they will become "member" accounts. But any bonuses will not be credited to your account if you go to a free-player world.