Is it possible to meet your soul mate on the internet?

Answer 1

A:

(I'm using "he" as in "he, the partner" here:sex-neutrally.)

If you understand the question as

"Is it possible to fall in love with someone you've never met, except online?"

The answer to this is "Yes, but this someone is a figment of your imagination.

Even if your partner was absolutely honest, there are a lot of things that can't be transmitted via text or even webcams.

So of necessity, your brain supplies the missing information, and since you're looking for a partner, this information will be affirmative.

This doesn't even include simple misunderstandings.

And the simple fact that you fell in love so quickly is a good indication that he was lying.

If you like things the way they are, tell your partner you don't want a real-life relationship.

He'll either dissolve, or you can continue dreaming.

Still, there's a chance he wasn't lying and that he moreover actually corresponds to your idea of him. So check.

But don't compromise on security issues like the dating place. If necessary tell him bluntly there's no particular reason for you to trust him, or for him to trust you, since anyone can say anything on the net. Assume a worst-case scenario."

But now on to the original question:

Can I find my true love on the net in a few days?

Of course.

Actually, you may even find your true love by opening a telephone book and blindly pointing at some name, in just 5 secs!

But seriously, I think the net is great for first-stage dating, especially for shy people or people who aren't the norm.

(Dis)advantages of the net: (let's list the disadvantages first)

-slow speed and narrow scope of communication: no body language, no facial expressions,

no pheromones, no body odor, no intonation, no pronunciation,...

-unknown or sketchy outer appearance: no photos; fake, old or "corrected" photos;

Even good and true photos don't really tell you how a person REALLY looks like in real life.

-no variety in settings: you can't learn how he behaves towards other people or in different situations. You can only learn how he behaves when he's on the look-out for a partner.

-you might find your true love - but you and him live far apart, so one will need to uproot the other.

-The net facilitates lying, for reasons seen above. So you could waste a lot of time on some fake. (to facilitate = to make easier)

Advantages:

-The net facilitates lying: This means liars are likely to make some stupid mistake that will become apparent on the very first date in real life!

You COULD be wasting time on a fake - so don't. As soon as you think the person is likely "partner material" if he is honest, date him in real life.

-The net facilitates honesty/openness: especially in the anonymous stage, you can be a lot more open than you ever would on a first or even third date. Beware however of hunters for blackmail material. Don't disclose anything that could seriously hurt you..

There is no censure by society: for example if you want someone rich, you can say so.

No society-induced hypocracy unless you want it.

-Many, many more people are going to see your profile than you could ever meet with the same degree of information in real life!

This is especially important if you have uncommon demands on a relationship most wouldn't agree to or defects most wouldn't tolerate.

-Someone you've met on the net will likely be a stranger to your circle of friends, so if things don't work out, you probably will never see him again; no awkward situations at parties etc.

-Pre-Selection: the people who contact you or whom you contact ARE looking for a relationship. No need to think of some way to find out if he's available and may be interested in you, possibly harassing him or making a desparate impression.

-Rejections are a lot easier to take, since far less personal. You don't want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you.

Basic rules:

- there ARE sharks roaming the net, so take care, especially if you're the trusting kind or easily intimidated or bad at defense or easily duped. Log your chats and study them. Don't go on a first date without backup precautions. Things are no different in real life except that sharks are harder to unmask there.

Still, the majority aren't sharks.

- Be serious, unless you just want to fool around. Don't joke and don't use irony unless it's obvious even to a complete stranger that it IS a joke/irony. And don't indicate something as a joke if it isn't. Tell your chat partner to do likewise.

- Study your chat logs for possible misunderstandings. Clear them up.

- read the "Tips"-section of your dating site and others for more specific and more comprehensive advice.

Regard all tips critically, including these. They are always generic of necessity, and some have commercial interests as a background.

- Don't be shy to show mistrust and don't be offended if it's shown to you, just find a mutually acceptable solution that will kill it (or at least defuse it) on both sides on the first date.

My

Dating is said to be an art. Some people are in it for the intimacy and some for the romance. A relationship depends on the comparability of both people. Many can make do with a single online chat once in two days and many need phone calls after every hour.

Answer 2

This is my "improved" answer to the question that was posed about finding love via the internet. What follows my answer is the original answer: _______________________________________ "The good old fashioned way of meeting people is still the best method"?? Who says? Statistics for the longevity of any relationship are dismal, even those who meet the "old fashioned" way. The internet is merely another TOOL by which to meet people. It neither helps nor harms the relationship building that must come later if the couple is to succeed. A few things to consider about a relationship that begins on the internet: 1) The initial lack of physical contact puts more emphasis on words, feelings, and communication. Although something to keep in mind is that, just as in "person", what you get in words may not be the true character of the person...but that is true in any relationship. It takes time to get to know the real person. The best thing that you can bring to ANY relationship -- and especially a cyber one is HONESTY. Some people don't mean to out and out lie about themselves, they are just not honest with themselves about who they are and what they want and so they end up disappointed whether in real life relationships or cyber ones. The better you know yourself and the more honestly that you present yourself the better chance you have of finding a lasting relationship in any arena. 2) The transition from "online" or "on phone" to "real life" is a biggy. Even though you feel that the two of you have a great relationship online, you still have to transition to a "real life" relationship and that can be delicate sometimes. Things are always a bit more tricky in the glare of real life than in cyberspace. But it can be successfully done. 3) Sometimes when using the internet, you meet people who live far distances from you. If you decide to pursue a relationship in such a case, the two of you will be faced with the same added geographical challenges that are true for couples who meet any other way but who may experience long distances due to work or family. The added burden of a long distance relationship in the beginning stages of building and strengthening the relationship can be difficult and is something that needs to be faced together. 4) Finally, be prepared for naysayers. The world is full of people (such as the person who answered below) who think in a box. They believe that the only "real" way to meet someone is the way it's always been done. Your friends, coworkers and family members may give you grief if they learn that you've met your new love via the internet. Part of this grief is true concern and rightly given as caution and commonsense are always in good order when getting to know someone in any setting. But part of the comments you will receive will come from people who are sure that how they met someone is exactly how you should do it. Don't allow their influence to color your judgment. This is the 21st century and the internet is just a communication tool that is used in business, family and yes, even personal meeting situations. In conclusion, there is no "right" or "wrong" about meeting someone on the internet. It is up to the two people involved as to whether the relationship will ultimately work. No matter where or how two people meet, it is what comes afterwards and their ability to comprimise, grow together and level of committment to making things work that ultimately determines the success or failure of a relationship. However you meet your love....best of luck. -Jenny. _____________________________________________ . Oh boy, this question is asked so often. Yes, but the percentages are extremely low. The good old fashioned way of meeting people is still the best method. In many cases, especially for the young, they find it easier to talk over MSN or by email rather than to actually work at meeting someone in the flesh and having to go through the natural form of meeting someone. By not getting out there and getting those butterflies in one's stomach on a first date, or experiencing that first kiss with someone you care about, you are robbing yourself of a lot of great memories you could carry through life. The eyes tell a lot about a person as does body language and that's just something you don't get over the internet. Get out and start dating! I believe if an adult is lonely, doesn't know where to meet someone, then it makes more sense to scout around and find a well qualified dating service to meet someone special. Internet is dangerous, you never really know who you are talking too and the old fashioned way of meeting people is still the best. Good luck Marcy

Answer 3

Different people would have different opinions on this question. I've been in the same situation before. I thougt I just really liked him. He had the looks, and his personality was amazing. I thought i'd found a real good catch, and that we'd be the best of friend forever. Then one day, he turned round to me and told me that he was in love with me. Bearing in mind this was over the Internet, so I was shocked. I thought we were just good friends. But wen he told me this, I realised my true feelings for him. That I loved him too. So I guess the simple answer to this question, would be yes. IT is possible to fall in love with someone over the Internet. Well it is for me and you.

Answer 4

No; in the very rare case you can meet a worthwhile person online that you could have a great relationship with, as soon as you start establishing a connection in real life. The crucial point is that you don't conduct a relationship primarily online or over the phone; you agree to meet up in a public place (not your home) and take the time to get to know each other in real life before going into a full blown relationship. If the person refuses to meet you publicly, you'll know that they're motives are questionable.

People can have online personas that are nothing like what they are; they can lie about their age, appearance, marital status, background or even their gender. Even if a person is honest and sends you a recent picture of themselves, you both might not feel the same chemistry when you meet up in real life as you had talking online. Sometimes an online connection feels more intense because the person is focusing on their conversation with you; it's only when you get to meet them in real life and see how they deal with real life problems (stress, work, family, friends, etc.) that you can see if their is enough chemistry for an actual relationship or not.

Don't fall into the folly of believing yourself to be in a relationship with someone you only contact online or over the phone. If someone is honest about themselves and genuinely wants to date you, they will be eager to meet you in real life, instead of hiding behind a computer or a phone.

Answer 5

Sure... it is possible. It might not be the best option for everyone, but there are definitely a lot of success stories.

ANSWER: Have you tried true love dot com? Failing that there are plenty of sites where you can hook up with them and pay them money to be your true love for the agreed upon amount of time.

Answer 6

Well No! you can't fall in love with this person over the internet, it's just a good feeeling of trust you have, and attraction. Meet this person first, and be careful!

Answer 7

YES YOU CAN FIND IT, SURELY. IF YOU ARE IN THE SAME REGION AS THE PERSON WHOM YOU ARE CHATTING WITH THEN YOU CAN LOOK FORWARD TO MEET THAT PERSON AND CARRY ON WITH YOUR RELATIONSHIP.

Answer 8

Yes, it is very possible to fall in love with a girl online.

Answer 9

Depends on how lucky you're. Somebody can easily find soulmate using dating sites, but there are people that aren't so lucky

Answer 10

I would say no because it does usually takes months maybe even longer.