'Would you like this candy or these desserts to follow the meal?'This is being used as an indicator for a singular item, and these is being used as an indicator for multiple items.See the related...
Use it's (with the apostrophe) only when you mean "it is" or "it has." For example: It's time to go. (It is time to go.)It's been a long time. (It has been a long time.) Use its (without the...
Perhaps you mean, "In order to..." Used in a sentence to explain one's intent:
"I am writing this way in order to help you understand me better."
To "enable" you to better understand me.