Wills are for a reason and by law, must be followed to the letter. Get that copy of the Will and tell your sister if she doesn't knock it off you are seeking legal advice. Try to discuss this matter as calmly as you can, because money and possessions of another are simply not worth losing a sister/brother or friend over. Unfortunately, I have seen some very nice people turn into animals when it comes to a Will. For the most part most people have a little secret corner of their personality that is called "Greed!"
My husband's parents passed away, and his sister who was Executrix went into the house and tried to clean out everything, but I forced my husband to go down to the house to protect his legal rights and those of his brother in New Zealand. I went along for the ride, but found myself in the middle of one nasty hornets nest. I am one that refuses to put up with this sort of behavior so I told her that if she didn't abide by the Probate rules or the Will that we would be seeking legal action and "Contest the Will." As soon as you say these words the other person will automatically back off, because if you contest the Will, it can be held up in court for a very long time, and most people just want what's due them and move on.
Have that talk with your sister and don't take a back seat! Here are the rules:
You have the right to be present when you sister enters any property or removes any items from that property.
You have the right to know where the money is being spent (funeral costs, money out of the Estate accounts to pay for legal counsel or paying for any forms needed to process the Will.)
You have the right to get what was left to you in the Will whether your sister agrees with it or not.
RESPONSIBILITIES OF AN EXECUTOR (MALE) EXECUTRIX (FEMALE)
To abide by all wishes in the Will by the deceased
The death notice is put into two different papers. (If you live in New York, then choose the most popular newspaper and if your parent(s) came from another State or town, you can choose a paper in their hometown. It's a way of letting the deceased friends and other family members know and also if there will be a funeral or not.)
To GIVE A COPY OF THE WILL TO ANY HEIRS!!!!
To have the Will Probated so that all debts are paid for
To keep a ledger of all expenses such as paying for electricity/heat/cable/phone, etc., until one can decide if they are selling the house/apartment/condo. Also all receipts must be available as to what money is being spent. THE EXECUTRIX CANNOT SPEND MONEY ON THEIR OWN PERSONAL NEEDS AND THIS IS BREAKING THE LAW!
When the Probate is activated, all monies must be accounted for (down to the penny!)
yes he/she is allowed
All the rights required. He or she does not need to be an executor to receive any bequest. It is the responsibility and legal duty of the executor to carry out the wishes of the deceased.
No and no.
They certainly do not have the rights. The executor has no power while the testator is still living.
They can do whatever they wish with their rights and property.
They have absolutely no rights. An executor does not obtain any power until appointed by the court.
Yes a wife has monetary rights to her husbands home in a divorce.
Grandparent or anyone else can never demand visitation, it is up to the parents to decide. The grandparents can in some states go to court to get visitation rights but the court will also listen to the parents.
The executor has the same rights as any other person. They can ask someone to change their will.
They have the same rights as they have with an estate that has a will. The creditors file their claims with the executor.
Yes, an executor can turn down the responsibility. The court will appoint another person and would probably approve it without a second thought.
Yes. A court appointed executor is obligated by law to settle the estate with expediency. However, the executor is bound by the speediness of the court where the probate is filed.