Discussion on 'How do you know if someone is a sociopath?'

(3) On February 11, 2008 at 11:58 pm Sharleea [0] said:

My experience with a sociopath was very interesting. It started with his charm. He made me laugh. Eventually he got his foot inside my door. He seemed to always be happy. Always had a smile on his face (who knows what was really going on inside!). He managed to manipulate me into paying for his past bills. I spent thousands on him.

During the time we were together, I always felt there was someone else in his life - like he was seeing other women. I chalked this up to me being insecure. I got him a sales job which lasted a whole week. He is a great salesman too! He could sell ice to an Eskimo without a problem! He has charisma. A lot of charisma. When we were living together I always felt he was using drugs too. What kind? I couldn't really tell all the time. I know that when he stayed awake for long hours, it was most likely meth. I could never find any of his stash either. Nor could I figure out how or where it came from. He hid stuff where I could never find it. This lead me to believe he wasn't using and I was imagining something that didn't exist.

I remember asking him if he had any long time friends, friends he's known for more than 10 years. The answer was no. I was his only friend.

He is totally ungrateful for anything was another thing I noticed that used to really bother me.

I found that everyone liked him and decided I was the one that was loosing it. A couple of my friends told me he used to motion to them that I was crazy. Slowly but surely my friends started slowly drifting away. I found myself locked in my room for most of the day. My house looked like a disaster. I even considered killing myself because I began believing I was crazy and couldn't handle life. At that point I wasn't handling it. When I realized that he wasn't worth killing myself over, I got on the Internet and looked up "con artist" which in turn lead me to sociopath. There in black and white were the answers to what was really going on in my life. Now it was time to get rid of him - the only answer to getting me out of the depression I was in. It took probably 2 months of kicking him out, and him smoothing his way back it. But each time it happened, I wouldn't allow him to stay as long only because I could feel myself slipping back into how it was before I decided to kick him out. And now that I have come to find out they have shallow feelings, I have no problem telling him "no, go away". I think when he did exhibit feelings of sadness, that they were only an act - something he learned how to do from watching others. I am still trying to keep him away from me now.

I am presently waiting his return to hand him a letter stating to "stay away from me my home, and my roommate". If he doesn't, I will take it to the next step and get a restraining order.

I have recently developed a bond with his mother. I feel sorry for her because he uses her the same way as he used me. But now that we have had time to talk and compare notes, she also forbids her own son around her house any more. She is done! I guess he had her believing it was her fault, but I have convinced her it isn't. It's just the way he is. We both agree he will never change and the best place for him is back in jail. He refuses to work and with both of us cutting him off at the same time - where will he get his money then? I'm sorry that someone will eventually become his next victim, but hopefully that person will be his last and he will be put away for 25 to life.

My message to anyone involved with a person like this is to get out as quickly and peacefully as possible. You will be in a lot better place. There are many other people in the world who would appreciate a healthy relationship, so it's not worth it to waste precious time on someone who could care less if you live or die. Life is too short. Enjoy it while you have it!

(2) On December 14, 2007 at 01:17 am Trigger0 [0] said:

sociopathic people are not freaks, theyre not terrible people. "normal people" choose to view us terribly, which is not at all something that we need deal with. yes, its true, sociopathic people dont watch out for anyone but themselves- but if everyone looked out for themself wouldnt the world be a perfect place? its dependent people who cannot make themselves content in life that there is something wrong with. the majority of people who say things like, "a sociopath is a parasite" are pathetic and will hopefully get what they deserve for being so rude. i will promise you that the person who said, "a sociopath is a parasite" has a pathetic life that he/she is not happy with and will never be happy with. i also guarentee that that person can only think of his/her own problems and simply has a very low IQ. sociopaths are people too, faggots. :)

(1) On April 17, 2007 at 10:26 am Suzannet [18] said:

umm... i kindof am one... just so y'all know, it's not so much fun being one either......

Ummm, just so you know, your comment here is so NOT sociopathic. One of the most common traits of the sociopathic personality is the lack of empathy/sympathy for others except in a very superficial and self-serving way. They are not concerned with "the damage they inflict upon others" and often feel that others deserve whatever they get for either "crossing" them in some way or because they are inferior to them. Most don't realize they are missing a vital part of their humanity and see their differences as part of what makes them superior. When they do realize they have something missing in a negative sense they usually do not seek help, instead they take their anger for this out on others around them. Sociopaths are extremely embittered people and although some believe that they are "born with something missing" it is the opinion of still many others that they are made-not born and, although they probably have an inherent predisposition to this personality type they still have a choice in what they become. Sociopathy is a personality disorder as opposed to a mental illness.

So......although you may be convinced you are a sociopath, your obvious conxcience says you are not. Still, you should probably seek psychological help. The fact that you want to be different is evidence that with help you probably can be. Sociopaths most often do not want help or believe that they need it and most authorities on the subject seem to feel that it is impossible for a sociopath to change.

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