Discussion on 'What do you do if you love someone but she does not ...?'

(6) On May 01, 2008 at 1:25 pm Khuja owl [0] said:

No, never move on. Love is always hard at first, but eventually it comes to be depending on how strong your love is. Just because one person may not feel the same way you feel about them doesn't mean its over for you. She may not have been meant to be anything besides a friend. But love comes to be.. But this, I think, happens only between a couple of a female and male..

(5) On May 31, 2007 at 2:56 pm DazeDConfuzeD [15] said:

My situation is extremely different. The main problem about it is I'm a girl probaly in love with my best friend(who happens to be a girl). I dont think there is anything wrong with the whole gay thing. I mean once you love or like someone its all in your heart and its extremely hard to get rid of. Most of my life Ive dated men and I love men but my best friend and I are so close. Never have I been with a girl and I really dont plan on it but the feelings I have towards her are so strong and I tried to get rid of them but like I mentioned its extremely hard. We hang out all the time, we have so many things in common and we argue like a couple. She gives me mixed signals and she would throw a little flirt into our conversations. Everytime it happens my voice cuts off like a 14 yr old boy going thru puberty. In the past she was dating a guy for about 4 years and well he ended up cheating on her left and right, sometimes even in front of her. They broke up about 3 years ago and when they broke up she was devasted, I tried to be there for her thru it all and I was the shoulder she would cry on. I then began to gain feelings for her. Probaly because I saw her hurting so much. She hasnt dated since but time to time I would take her out and we would be on "dates" you can say. But it was always like a friend thing. The worst part is I think about her so much, she smircks at me with these loving eyes. When were in a room with friends she tells me lets get out of her or she would stare at me with those loving green eyes from across a room. She always begs me to stay by her house but nothing ever occured, only thing that occured were my feelings towards her. They kept growing. The worst thing is I can not be with her or tell her how I feel because well one shes my best friend and secondly my family would be dissapointed if I were with a female, me being a female, it just doesnt work out how I would like to. I love hanging out with her, we would do everything together, talk about everything. For those thinking, I havent had a boyfriend since a year ago, when I had to break it off because I cant stop thinking about her. I couldnt get feelings for this guy who was very sweet but I couldnt lead him on. Its to difficult. And like all girls I want to get married with a really good man and have children, Im only 22. But if I continue with these feelings Im going to go crazy. Just put yourself in my shoes, when you really like someone it hurts. Now shes dating this guy whos really nice and cool but now Im hurting, sad to say but Ive even cried about it because she mentions she likes him and I know I wont be able to see her and hang out like normally would. I want to tell her how I feel but I feel like it will ruin our friendship and I rather have her in my life than not have her at all. Shes amazing and whatever man is with her will be very lucky and shes beautiful. And not cause shes my friend but everyone says shes gorgeous. Funny thing is Im not attracted to other girls but her. Other girls I look at as something regular. And like I said I will never mention it to anyone because I love everyone in my family and hers and I know they wont be happy with our relationship. I dont know if the feeling between her and I are mutual but like I mentioned she does give me those feelings, even now thats shes dating this guy. One time she told me to kiss her because she needs love and I told her no, we were not sober. I told her it just because I dont want to ruin our friendship. I mean how would it feel afterwards. It would be so akward. See I know that Im an attractive female who can get a handsome man and be with him. But shes always on my mind and now I dont know what to do. I cant talk to anyone because no one will understand my feelings. So what do you guys think I should do? HELP!

(4) On May 24, 2007 at 9:55 pm Robdolan [21] said:

all you need to do is tell her you are not intersted any more and she will think she has lost you. If she is not bothard by this then you know nothing will ever happen but if she sits up and pays atention thats when you hold all the cards again... Jst try it mate.

(3) On May 06, 2007 at 6:22 pm Darkfalcon5681 [7] said:

I'm 17 and I've dated this girl which we gone out for a little over a year then she broke up with me saying she wasn't ready for a relationship telling me she wanted to stay good friends until she think she's ready, but a week later she tries dating someone else and I'm still have strong feelings for her and if I try to talk to her she hardly says anything but yet I hear she likes me still. The only thing is she seems like she just doesn't care anymore and every time I try to go on that subject she never talks back until I switch subjects. I don't know if she is just doing this for something to talk to her friends about. If she actually does have feeling still or what, but if anyone can give me advice or anything please help.

(2) On December 01, 2006 at 7:52 pm Masterharryr [33] said:

I love this girl in my class (Year 6) and have written her a note. She replied that I'm only a friend, but I'm head over heels for her. What should I do?

(1) On June 23, 2006 at 5:50 pm 85.180.154.223 said:

Just because someone doesn t love you the way you want them to, it doesn t meen you re not loved with all his/her being....!!!

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