I don't know if they do--BUT, I have been dealing with a N at Church. This man was interested in me and has even involved himself in my life in ways that are inappropriate. When I got a new job he went around and told everyone that I got this new job and people were congratulating me before I even started. I only told one person! Another N who is a woman. He and this other one are DEFINITELY in cahoots with one another--that's for sure! He used to stare at me and watch every single person that I was talking to. Not only that but he would constantly ask me questions about 1. How much money I spent on Odwalla (my Odwalla habit to be exact); 2. How much money I spent on car service; 3. What the most expensive thing in my home was; 4. Accused me of having a shopping/shoe addiction (because he has several addictions and cannot or WILL NOT cope with the fact that HE is the only addict here and tries desperately to project that onto others); 5. Asked me in front of others with anger and hostility what I was going to order to eat only to put me down and try to humiliate me in front of other N (woman) at which time she afterwards told me how I 'hurt' him and 'made them both so uncomfortable' and told me that I needed to 'apologize to him' which I did but HE is the ONLY ONE that needed to apologize because his behavior was atrocious and majorly controlling! I actually said to him, quite angrily--'since when did my eating habits become so interesting to you'? He looked at me with that bewildered look that I hear so much about!
The other thing is....that actually pertains to the question is this....this sicko N has (at times he has been angry or rageful at me for 'not paying attention to him' or 'alienating him') has purposely walked behind me for a while and pretended to be looking in stores. I believe he was checking out our rear ends!! This happened again on Sunday when I walked back into the church after forgetting something and I caught him staring at me from behind (because I could totally see in the glass from the door). He is the first one to call anything 'vulgar' or 'inappropriate' and he chastises anyone who is 'less than perfect in his assinine opinion'. I believe that he has some SERIOUS sexual issues that he is repressing in front of others but he CLEARLY lets out (even if it is in a sneaky way) in private or when he thinks no one is looking or paying attention. I think that when he is angered (it seems because I totally pay no attention to him and have absolutely NO reaction to him although he is CONSTANTLY trying to be near to me and get me to pay attention and react to him) he seems to lash out sexually (or sexually in his sick mind) by trying to get a look at me (at my rear or at my chest or something similar but NEVER when anyone is looking). He also tries to insult me and tries to be very vindictive to me by aggressively coming up to people who I am in conversation with and saying hello to everyone and completely ignoring me or whispering in peoples ears to try and make it look as if he is talking about me to others right in front of me. He is like a 5 year old child.
Thanks for all of your comments! Im learning so very much! I was also married to a N and keep finding myself being confronted by them! I know that they say it's rare--but for some reason, ever since I was married--they're everywhere! I know now how to deal with them though and certainly know just what types of behavior they exhibit! Thanks very much! God bless!!