Do girls who sit alone and read books in coffee shops want to be approached by guys?

To approach or not to approach?

Here are opinions:

• Not all of them do, but often it will make their day, or if you are in luck, maybe they had been hoping somebody would just approach them and you'll hit it off!

• YES...OF COURSE!

• No all of us. Whenever I'm in a coffee shop I'm studying and the last thing on my mind is a man hitting on me.

Look at the Book

Look at what kind of book she is reading- if she is reading fiction, there is a possibility. If she is reading nonfiction she's probably studying and you need to stay away. But if she is reading fiction, see if her eyes are actually scanning the page or just staring at it- if she's just staring, she may not mind if you ask to sit down or at least for her name [even if you know it]. If she's reading romantic fiction- if she's dreamy-eyed or smiling go for it; if she's just sitting there neutrally she's longing for something and you might go for it, just be careful. If it's anything else fiction, use your best judgement. Don't bug her if she's engrossed, but don't be a complete stranger.

Look at her face

Is she engrossed in the book? Is her head or are her eyes moving rapidly as she flips the pages? Then stay away from her, because she's busy. If she doesn't look committed to the book then ask, especially if you know the book. Girls are really different, and the same girl can react differently at different times, so I'd say risk it, and apologize if you've clearly interrupted her. Also, if she's listening to music as well, don't bother asking, because she's tuning out the world.
When you sit down, first ask her if she's like some conversation, even if you've read the book, that way she can politely refuse. I wouldn't be completely turned off by nonfiction, either, unless she has notes out; some girls really dig nonfiction.

Answer

Go ahead, make it a day. I don't see why you would in the first place because she is reading and not exactly doing something else. It doesn't look good to me but hey you never know what she would say.

First answer by AmandaLynn. Last edit by 74Robin. Contributor trust: 42 [recommend contributor]. Question popularity: 62 [recommend question]

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