Even though people may not be who they say they are if you have seen the person's webcam does that mean it is safe?

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== == * Even if you've seen them on webcam doesn't mean they are safe; it could of made it to seem like it was them but you never know who its is. If you're not sure who it is then I wouldn't deal with it. * Just because they are on then internet doesn't mean they are liars or unsafe, but it is easier to lie in an email and over the computer. Also just because you have seen their webcam doesn't mean they are who they say and that they are safe. If you choose to meet this person do it in a public place and tell a few friends so they know where you are, just in case. Then don't give away your last name, phone number, address or even close to where you live. You can even have a friend or two be at the same place with you, just to be extra safe. You can never be too sure about anyone until you get to know them. Just use smarts and don't do anything that makes you uncomfortable. == == * My sister met someone on the Internet and "played it safe". She dated this guy for months.(Comment: That doesn't give ANY additional security. In fact the fact that he is "patient" or "doesn't want to rush things" for MONTHS is almost proof that he's a cheater. After all, he can have dozens of such relationships)After several months as she arrived home from a visit to the guy's home town, her phone was ringing. She picked it up to find his pregnant wife on the other end of the line! Now, this was not a life-threatening situation, but it took her a couple of years to get over it (and it still hurts even though she's moved on). However, meeting someone on the internet CAN be life-threatening. Do you really want to take that chance? No matter how remote or likely the possibility? People have been meeting people and getting married and having wonderful friendships, etc. WITHOUT the internet since the beginning of time. And you're much more likely to meet a freak on the internet than you would be in person.[Comment:You think his wife met him on the net? Ask her. She's married to a cheater now and pregnant - did she get a better deal?

== == * If you must meet them, do it in a public place like a mall or restaurant. Make sure that a few of your friends know where you are and know when you're going to get back so if if you're several hours late, they'll know that something is wrong. Be safe! == == * Quit being lazy, get your butt off that computer seat and meet the opposite sex the good old fashion way!

* In order to improve the "neutrality" of this entry, many people meet online. Nothing you can do will guarantee safety. Even if you have no proof of a person lying, that person may still be a liar. This is true on and OFF the Internet. Get to know the person in public places. Try to meet the person's friends in public places before you go anywhere with them. There's not a reason to avoid Internet meetings when you've taken precautions like you would any other meeting - from the personals in the paper, or after you've exchanged numbers in a bar. Meeting people from the Internet should be treated no different. I have met many people from online. To me it seems safer than going to a bar when a guy brings back a mixed drink where he could have dropped anything into it. == == == == * No. Some people are freaks. Talk to them on the phone a lot, then meet them in a public place. (Repost from a different question; let's list the disadvantages first)

-slow speed and narrow scope of communication: no body language, no facial expressions,

no pheromones, no body odor, no intonation, no pronunciation,...

-unknown or sketchy outer appearance: no photos; fake, old or "corrected" photos;

Even good and true photos don't really tell you how a person REALLY looks like in real life.

-no variety in settings: you can't learn how he behaves towards other people or in different situations. You can only learn how he behaves if he's on the look-out for a partner.

-you might find your true love - but you and him live far apart, so one will need to uproot the other.

-The net facilitates lying, for reasons seen above. So you could waste a lot of time on some fake. (to facilitate = to make easier)

Advantages:

-The net facilitates lying: This means liars are likely to make some stupid mistake that will become apparent on the very first date in real life!

You COULD be wasting time on a fake - so don't. As soon as you think the person is likely "partner material" if he is honest, date him in real life.

-The net facilitates honesty/openness: especially in the anonymous stage, you can be a lot more open than you ever would on a first or even third date. Beware however of hunters for blackmail material. Don't disclose anything that could seriously hurt you..

There is no censure by society: for example if you want someone rich, you can say so.

No society-induced hypocrisy unless you want it.

-Many, many more people are going to see your profile than you could ever meet with the same degree of information in real life!

This is especially important if you have uncommon demands on a relationship most wouldn't agree to or defects most wouldn't tolerate.

-Someone you've met on the net will likely be a stranger to your circle of friends, so if things don't work out, you probably will never see him again; no awkward situations at parties etc.

-Pre-Selection: the people who contact you or whom you contact ARE looking for a relationship. No need to think of some way to find out if he's available and may be interested in you, possibly harassing him or provoking infidelity or making a desparate impression.

-Rejections are a lot easier to take, since far less personal. You don't want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you.

Basic rules:

- there ARE sharks roaming the net, so take care, especially if you're the trusting kind or easily intimidated or bad at defense or easily duped. Log your chats and study them. Don't go on a first date without backup precautions. Things are no different in real life except that sharks are harder to unmask there.

Still, the majority aren't sharks, so don't worry about risks that you can't decrease or avoid anyway.

- Be serious, unless you just want to fool around. Don't joke and don't use irony unless it's obvious even to a complete stranger that it IS a joke/irony. And don't indicate something as a joke if it isn't. Tell your chat partner to do likewise.

- Study your chat logs for possible misunderstandings. Clear them up.

- read the "Tips"-section of your dating site and others for more specific and more comprehensive advice.

Regard all tips critically, including these. They are always generic of necessity, and some have commercial interests as a background.

- Don't be shy to show mistrust and don't be offended if it's shown to you, just find a mutually acceptable solution that will kill it (or at least defuse it) on both sides on the first date.

-CHECK UP THE INFO HE GIVES YOU, as far as it's reasonable. Meet his friends, his parents, visit him at work, let them know you're not just a friend.

Nothing is ever safe, that's why we take risks. By seeing them on webcam you have to be sure it's them, make them wave or hold something stupid up like a spoon and if they don't be very wary. People find it easier to lie over the internet even if it's unintentional, just for attention, so be careful on what you trust. Just remember to be wary and not share ANY private information such as where you live (minus country) and you should be okay.