Milton Rokeach's three-level model in human behavior includes individual personality (internal factors), interactions with others (interpersonal relations), and participation in societal structures (social systems). Rokeach believed that human behavior can be understood by examining how these three levels interact and influence one another.
you take it and ignore it you laugh it off and agree sarcasticly.. tell him lines such as "what ever" and "suuuuuuure" if you show it dosent bother you he or she will drop it eventualy... DO NOT SINK TO THEIR LEVEL Trust yourself because you know who you are and you're one strong person for leaving this narcissist. I call this "shaking the old apple tree" which means those that choose to believe his lies about you were never your friends in the first place and those that stand by your side are your true friends. Consider it a short-cut in life. Good for you! Keep going girl! Someone once told me, "You know who you are. Walk with your head held high - with dignity." The truth 'always' prevails. If not now - later. Try to trust this universal law. Those who know you - those worthy of your friendship and love - will always know the truth. The rest will eventually, even if you are not privy to it. Going against our instincts to defend can be one of the most difficult tasks before us, but silence can speak far louder than our words. If ever in a situation where you are faced with a "fact" about yourself that is untrue, simply find a few powerful, calm, mature words that will get the truth across, while retaining your dignity and composure. Never forget who you are and walk assuredly in that truth. Best wishes & an end to troubles, AlwaysLearning
Narcissists often seek validation and control in conversations. They may change their position to assert dominance or provoke a reaction, rather than engaging in a genuine exchange of ideas. This behavior allows them to maintain power and keep the focus on themselves.
I would say that if it helps YOU, go ahead and feel sorry for them. Let me explain: First, I am not an expert by any means. If this is difficult for you please get some counseling.I will tell you what has helped me though, with the help of my counselor. A narcissist should not be excused from their bad behavior. I truly believe that they know they are treating you bad. They likely don't care because they are so consumed with themselves and their own need for validation. The thing that made the difference to me was knowing that a narcissist doesn't care because he is INCAPABLE of it. They just don't know how. This is very tragic for them. Just think! They will likely never be able to feel love the way you or I are able. They are at a huge disadvantage in almost every aspect of their lives. They are never happy and they live in a constant state of inner turmoil. I read somewhere, "How can you hate a snake for being a snake?" Same with a narcissist. It is what it is and we can't change it. We can feel sorry for them enough to know that we can't blame ourselves. If this helps you accept and move on, go ahead and feel sorry for them. Just please don't stay with them! No amount of pity will change them. Good luck. You are not alone! Don't feel sorry for him, but learn to forgive. I have on my fridge, "If you can't forgive the person then they still have control of you." Narcissists feel little to no remorse and they will just jump from one prey to the other. They are hunters without knowing it. No counseling will help them because they feel they know more and are more highly intelligent than most people. Good luck I've been feeling sorry for my ex-narcissist for quite awhile now, even though he was the one who dumped me after I found out he was cheating on me with a friend -- who was engaged to someone else, by the way. A real sad mess for everyone involved...But, I'd always remember his sad sad stories of his childhood and forgive him for hurting me so much because he didn't know any better and someone who went thru such traumatic events couldn't possibly be expected to rise above that. Well -- and maybe this will help you, too-- after 8 months of crying over him, therapy, medication, and still feeling bad over his sad childhood, I was given a gift that I believe was no coincidence: I flew on an airplane with someone from his family, who shockingly revealed to me that these sad stories were, in fact, lies. Everything I believed about this guy -- lies. Everything that reeled me in, with my big heart and huge capacity for love -- lies. He's a narcissist, which I only realized after he so ruthlessly discarded me, and that's what they do -- lie to evoke sympathy, which equals Narcissistic Supply. So, think about all of those things about yours that make you sad, and remember my story...
A narcissist may exhibit controlling behaviors towards their friend, such as trying to isolate them from others or discredit their achievements. They may also become passive-aggressive or lash out with criticism or insults to undermine their friend's self-esteem. Overall, the jealousy may intensify their need for admiration and validation, leading to toxic dynamics in the friendship.
Narcissists often develop the ability to psychologically penetrate their partners through manipulation, emotional abuse, and gaslighting. This behavior is a symptom of their narcissistic personality disorder, characterized by a lack of empathy and a deep need for control and admiration. It is not a healthy or constructive skill, but rather a harmful and destructive pattern of behavior.
Destroying cherished mementos and photos of a narcissist could trigger intense emotional reactions and possibly lead to feelings of betrayal, anger, and distress for the narcissist. It may also fuel their narcissistic tendencies, as they could see it as a personal attack on their self-image and importance. It's crucial to approach such situations with caution and sensitivity, keeping in mind the potential impact on the individual's mental health.
Narcissists can struggle with effective communication due to their self-centered focus and lack of empathy. They often prioritize their own needs and feelings over others, which can lead to poor listening skills and difficulty in understanding others' perspectives. This can result in one-sided communication patterns and challenges in building healthy relationships.
Narcissists may tell elaborate lies to manipulate and control others, boost their ego, or create a false image of themselves. They often lack empathy and may not consider the impact their lies have on others. It can serve as a way for them to feel powerful and maintain their facade of being superior.
It is important to establish boundaries with your wife, seek individual therapy to cope with the challenges of being in a relationship with a narcissist, and consider couples therapy to improve communication and address issues in the marriage. Prioritizing self-care and seeking support from loved ones can also help you navigate this difficult situation.
It is generally not recommended to confront a narcissist directly, as they may react defensively or escalate the situation. It is important to set boundaries and prioritize your own well-being when interacting with a narcissist. Seeking support from a therapist or counselor can also be helpful in navigating relationships with a narcissist.
It varies depending on the individual narcissist, but they may prioritize their new supply due to the perceived benefits of the pregnancy. However, some may still seek out old supply sources if they feel the need for validation or control. It's important to prioritize your own well-being and boundaries in such situations.
When a Narcissist's source begins to ignore them, they may feel a range of emotions such as anger, frustration, and confusion. They may also try to regain control by seeking validation from others or escalating their behavior to get attention. Ultimately, they may discard the source if they feel they can no longer manipulate or control them.
It is possible for a narcissist to say this as a manipulation tactic to make themselves appear more humble or garner sympathy. However, their actions are often more telling than their words, so it's important to evaluate their behavior as well.
The original theory of chiropractic 100 years ago was that illness occurs due to "subluxations", which was defined as the vertebrae causing impingement of the adjacent nerve roots. Chiropractic manipulations were thought to move the vertebrae back into alignment and reduce the pressure on these nerves, so that the body could then heal itself.
Modern chiropractic is based on the theory that a properly functioning spine and musculoskeletal system in general is an important part of total health and well-being. Joints in the spine (and others) are meant to move. When joints are not moving properly then pain and loss of function can result. Chiropractors will use joint manipulations to induce proper motion back into a joint and thus relieve pain and improve function.
More technically, chiropractic scientists theorize that joint manipulation affects afferent stimuli, reducing or eliminating gamma system overflow or reducing the proprioceptive input modulating gamma system function. It has been suggested that this temporary interruption in myoelectrical activity has a persistent therapeutic effect on the periarticular muscle.
Set boundaries to protect yourself, limit your interactions with her, and seek support from others who understand the situation. It's important to prioritize your own well-being and not engage in power struggles with a narcissistic individual. If needed, consider seeking guidance from a therapist to navigate this relationship dynamic.
that would be a severe depression with lots of self pitty--Or a mean bully
NOPE. Dont count on it. Its in their nature to use and discard. To an N, they don't have a problem, YOU do and that's why theyll cheat anyway.
You are an object, Do as your told or you get tossed out. They BORE very easily too... like a junkie looking for the next high, they have no more loyalty to one line of cocaine as to another....
Thousands of years ago. It simply wasn't called that.
They die - it's the only way, because they will never change. They are nice and charming to people they want on their side, but to the poor victim, they just never give up, they are relentless and very sneaky. They never come right out and tell you off for what they perceive that you have done 'wrong' but wait till you lose patience in them, bring it up, and then have a go at you, as though you're the wrong one. I'm sure they are all from another planet - they are more like unfeeling robots, then anything slightly resembling a human being. My daughter's one, and I'm coming awfully close to actually hating her, which I thought I'd never say about anyone I know, but after all the very kind things I've done for your - all the money, as well, she's shown absolutely no thanks or appreciation - she's a disgusting human being, and I'm very close to completely washing my hands of her, completely.
Check with your therapist. Any answer we could give would be insulting, like "just stay away from...". We don't know the details, so we can't answer.
they can be quiet. a cerebral narcissist may not approach people or talk to those they feel are inferior, or that will not stimulate them in a way that provides supply. otherwise it would just be an act that furthers the false self they are portraying, or as a way of observing during the period where they decide what quality of supply source you will be. a shy person is timid, and afraid of being hurt in a social situation. the narcissist is malicious.
In my personal experience w/my soon to be ex husband for the 2nd time, don't ask them to return unless you are prepared to up and do everything they tell you to do including selling your soul AND you are ready to apologize and take blame for everything that ever went wrong or will go wrong in your relationship. You better put aside any of your needs, because they will never get met. It's about them. Not you. You are merely a side kick benefit of some sort or they wouldn't want you. And trust me, when you are out of energy, money, time, effort, sacrifice or whatever it is that would benefit them, they will just find someone else to take your place.