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First of all, you have made a mature decision by deciding to tell them. Do it as soon as possible. Apparently you feel you can go to your parents although you are hesitant in disappointing them. Your situation is very hard for you but find strength in the fact that you have a Christian household. Please know that it is not any easier for someone older and independent when they find they are to become a parent. Having a Christian background should be all the more reason you should have understanding parents. They won't be pleased, but if they believe in The Bible then they should realize you aren't a Bad Girl and made a mistake. God gave us the joy of sex and sometimes we simply are like small children playing with fire and get into trouble. Please talk to your parents as soon as possible. Hopefully they practice what they preach. Hello Dear Young Mother, You may already know this but, before I get to the heart of the matter please bear this in mind - your son or daughter that you carry within you is not the sin. The sex against God's will was the sin. The baby He allowed you to conceive is proof of His love for you and the mercy He has chosen to extend to you in allowing life to come to you and through you - even in the midst of your sin.......... and all for His glory... and your good. Yes, even for your good. He sees what you cannot see and knows what you need, better than you yourself will ever know. In the midst of this challenging place you are now in, dear one, I pray you will understand why you have every reason in the world to Praise God - yes, even for this pregnancy. You chose to sin against Him, but He chose to bless you. The fact that you have conceived is proof that God willed this child to exist, otherwise, you would not have conceieved. It is truly that simple - man thinks he's in control but only God is fuly sovereign at all times over all. Friend, in His mercy, He is allowing you to carry this child. Whether you keep your child or choose to grant parenthood to another couple through adoption, know and be grateful for this child for God is mercifully working in your life and wants you to depend fully on Him and this pregnancy He has allowed you to have is part of that path inviting you to a closer walk with Him. I want you to know that 21 years ago, I was in your situation as a Christian, unwed, young mother (mother-to-be) ......... I understand. You mentioned that you were raised a Christian so I am going to counsel you from that frame of reference assumming that you do consider yourself a beleiver saved from your sins by God's grace, professing faith in His Son, Jesus Christ, alone. Friend, be careful that you do not make decisions based on what you think your parent's response will be. You must simply do what is right because that is what the Lord requires of you and He never qualifies what He requires of you based on how the other person(s) involved responds. The most important thing you can do, regardless of what you think your parent's (or anyone else's for that matter) response will be, is to humble yourself and genuinely repent to the Lord first for sinning against Him not only for the sexual sin but probably even more importantly, for rebelling against your parents. I know this may be very hard to consider but it's important to realize that each man/woman will stand alone before the Lord and will not be able to blame a single soul for any wrong choices he/she made inthis life. Perhaps you don't have the best relationship with your parents; but the Lord never excuses a son or daughter's obedience to his/her parents based on how good or faithful the parents are. Before we ever sin against anyone else, it is first God that we sin against. We need to obey and repspect parents not so much because of the parents, but because of Christ and that dreadful, beautiful cross He gruesomely died on for you......... and for me. And we both know that your sins and mine nailed Him there just as equally as anyone else's; including our imperfect authorities over us. I grieve with you, dear one, for the emptiness you have felt inside that drew you into an off-limits relationship and into the forbidden arms of a young man in the first place, but, at the same time, I must remind you that Scripture has made clear - we can blame no one else. Not that you are but just in case, I felt it important to lay this critical foundation first. Jesus is to be your all in all; He is the only lover of your soul and He paid the ultimate price for you. You are His. Repent literally means to turn. Genuine repentance will result in a turning from the sin. And the weaker we are in Him because we have not genuinely fed our relationship with the Lord, the harder it will be for a while as we discipline ourselves to daily walk in His ways and not our own. This is what is meant by "pick up your cross"; our personal cross is our self will. Humble yourself, deny your self-will, follow Him and His will and He will give you strength. When you repent to the Lord, ask Him to help you to humble yourself before your parents and to mean it from the heart. While humbling yourself out of duty because you know it's the right thing to do is better than hardening your heart in pride, still it is when it becomes not just duty but genuine from the heart when the true and healthy fruit begins to grow in our lives. The Bible says that God stands opposed to the proud (hard-hearted) - obviously, not a good place for a mere human to be! Friend, ask the Lord to give you the right words to say when you go to your parents and remember, just like you are going through a wide range of emotions, so will they likely be. Be gracious and cut them some slack, even if they don't cut you some. Remember, if you are truly repentant, you must come empty of yourself expecting nothing in return. And, if your parents grant you their forgiveness, even though we all have a responsibility to forgive because we ourselves have been forgiven, still, their forgiveness is a gift. Be grateful for it and express that gratitude to them. I do not want to put words in your mouth and what you say must come from the depths of your own heart but, sometimes it can help to have an example. To that end, you might say something like this: "Mom, Dad - you've taught me about the Lord and I am at a point in my life that I see just how important it is to follow the Lord's ways and not my own. I know your desire is for me to love the Lord and walk in His ways and I want you to know that I understand that part of that means to honor you guys. I am so sorry to have to tell you that I have dishonored both God and you two because I have sinned in my relationship with (boy's name). I found out that I am pregnant. I know you must be so hurt by me not being faithful to the Lord and to you and I truly am so sorry for that. I have repented to the Lord and I have asked for Him to help me as I work on my relationship with Him being more grateful for the Lord and His sacrifice for me and also, to be more grateful for you, Mom & Dad. I do love you guys & it hurts me to know that I've hurt you. I need your prayers and support; I honestly want to be a daughter to you guys in a way that pleases the Lord and also, lifts your burdens. Will you please forgive me for sinning against you and hurting you?" One more thing, dear one. The reality is you cannot honor God without honoring your parents. There is no alternative route to pleasing Him while simultaneously disobeying and dishonoring your parents. And remember, AGE HAS NOTING TO DO WITH IT. It's about where the God-ordained, covenanted authority exists. Just in case the enemy is lying to you about that one, remember that a son and daughter, regardless of age, are under their parent's authority until the son or daughter marries (a covenant situation). Authority come's with covenant responsibilities and just moving out of their parent's house and into a separate house isn't a legitimate establishing of a God-ordained covenant. HOWEVER, having said that, understand that human authority is not the same as God's authority. Only God has SUPREME authority - man's is LIMITED. IF YOUR PARENTS (ANY AUTHORITY, FOR THAT MATTER) EVER REQUIRES YOU TO SIN AGAINST GOD, SUCH AS REQUIRING YOU TO GET AN ABORTION, YOU MUST NOT OBEY YOUR PARENTS IN THAT CASE. YOUR RESPONSIBILITY IS ALWAYS TO GOD FIRST AND YOU MUST OBEY HIM.... NO MATTER WHAT. Trust God to work out His purposes in your life. I do hope this helps, dear one. Know that I will be praying for you. From my heart, for His glory - Signed - a grateful mother of two, one of which is that baby born to me 21 years ago when I was in your shoes, unwed & alone - a son whose goal it is to become a Constitutional attorney to legally fight those who kill the preborn. Coincidence? Not at all, it is the sovereignty of God. He knows what is needed and it is never man's place to attempt to thwart His will. It is for us to, with hearts of gratitude, honor God, love Him, serve Him and enjoy the ride!

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