If you walk away , eventually your abuser will realize you're gone ; and hopefully be quiet. When your husband( or mate) happens to be a narcissist, they will attempt to control , even the answers to their questions -because they alone have all the answers.When this happens, try repeating their name over and over and over.This sometimes works to snap them out of a tirade, because a natural responce when you hear your name called ,is to ask,"what".If he is unable to control himself,and resumes the tirade , leave the room .If you are still intent in answering the question,you might write it down-because a 2-way conversation with a narcisstic abuser is not possible.They don't hear you.They could really care less about your opinion,or even the answer to the question they asked you in the first place.
The only way to stop the verbal abuse is to leave...permanently. I was in a very verbal and finally physically abusive relationship and it wasn't until a complete severence occured that the verbal abuse stopped. As a matter of fact, my former boyfriend was "scouting" other women while dating me because he probably knew an end was near. He also denied any wrong doing on his behavior...even when he slapped my son. He tried to keep control of me while establishing a new relationship with his now wife and I allowed it because I was stuck in the abusive cycle. It was only when I completely broke free and obtained professional help did I see and understand what actually was going on. God Bless
Abuse of any kind - verbal, emotional, physical, sexual - necessitates a response. There is a variety of possible responses.