How can someone transcend a problem?

The problems of an anonymous person on the internet are not going to be your problems. You'll have to do your own homework.

I help my friends with their problems but usually people see a counselor.

Because sometimes when u misjudge them it could be their strangth u misjudged and that could be a problem. To misjudge someone could lead to bad things. You could get hurt or it can make u look like...

you try to talk to them and let them know how they are acting

Don't confront someone with a drinking problem all by yourself. It's best to consult an intervention specialist and make a plan. You need to know some basic principles of intervention as well as to...