How do you deal with narcissism?

Answer 1

I was with a narcissist for two years. He went straight into another relationship which completely devasted me. I went crazy and told him what I thought of him, and that I knew he was using this woman like he had me. He accused me of stalking him, but I knew he was getting pleasure from the attention. At Christmas I tried to contact him, and make amends and he won't answer me, nothing just ignoring me. Am I the first woman to have gotten rid of a narcissist?? Answer True NPD personality types tend to be pathologic liars. They will say/do anything to manipulate others for their own benefit. They lack any type of conscience regarding others. Narcissists need to control/use others and view other people as puppets/tools that contrubute to the narcissists "supply". You can deal with someone that has a NPD anytime you want. What you have to understand is that they only can empathize relative to what may directly affect their own lives. If a lie hurts you or another but benefits them and they can deny or lie about having lied then they will lie in a heartbeat. People with NPD are natural con artists. In many cases they have normal jobs and can mimic normal behavior realtively well. They are masters of facade and will use and manipulate others in amazing ways. They can be charming and even talented in some areas but have deep issues with esteem that manifests itself in many ways. True NPD people will mix lies with truth to make themselves look better, or to cocktail their personalities to lure others into trusting them. NPD's have been honing their skills since they were young children and any normal person with a conscience is at a disadvantage. NPD's have a very simple perception that "you don't know the difference." A person who with an NPD justifies the usage of another. It is ultimately the victims own fault for believing the narcissist's lies. The narcissist will always tell you exactly what is needed to get what they want from you. They will deny, cry and ultimately become furious when confronted with their lies no matter how blatent. Dealing with the NPD is dealing with a child that lacks both empathy or a sense of conscience with regards to others.

Answer 2

In one way, this question is fundamentally flawed; the very sickness of a narcissist revolves around their viewing you as merely an extension of themselves or a means to their furtherance of their inordinate self-interest. Primarily, any desire to further engage with the N is undoubtedly giving acknowledgement to a relationship which has already been tainted by their loathing. However; no matter how desirable it may be to cease all contact with such immediately, obviously in the case of work colleagues, family and loved ones, a different approach may be required. On the matter of return manipulation, I would say that unless during the course of your negating the N's power they inadvertently assist you (taking the utmost care to not be duped), then the safest bet is to vote with your feet. A fully blown N (with NPD) is not worth the time taken to attempt to divide out any genuine friendship they may intend towards you, put simply they cannot afford the luxury of friendship when their own self-interest is so all consuming as to be positively dangerous. Such separation will undoubtedly be accompanied by a degree of fear, but a person so emotionally stunted is in fact, very ill and needs help, honesty and treatment. Also; it is possible to mistake someone's actions as narcissistic, when in fact they are not. Discernment, making the decision to defer judgement and a more thorough investigation may be required to ascertain the level of culpability and actual level of disorder. Ask yourself: How can it be that something so closely related to something as simple as selfishness can be so overlooked, misunderstood and subject to frequent abuse? Are we not taught that such is wrong from a small child ? Often ? And do not even evil parents teach their children so ? Where is the line to be drawn between being a charismatic individual. A person with flair, strong-minded, independent, not afraid to take the lead? We are but one of billions of people on the planet. However important we are each in God's eyes, yet there is no reason to suppose that we are fundamentally more important that anybody else.

If a person truly wants to be an individual, let them do so in their pursuit of righteousness. In this particular selfishness, God is sure to bless you. If that requires you to make money, raise a family, fight or take flight from your enemies, then so be it. Only when we allow ourselves the freedom to pursue the right can we become something which can truly benefit the human race (whether they accept it or not...). The mistake narcissists make is that they are making an argument for whether it be in our/their interest to be self-serving.

Answer 3

You don't. And if you do, get away while you still have your sanity.