Divorcing a narcissist

Answer 1

Avoid him altogether and have absolutely no contact with him. Change your phone number, email, consider moving if you can do so. Ignore his requests for contact; if he threatens you, notify the police. Put as much physical distance between him and your family as you possibly can.

If you can afford to (especially if there are children involved) discuss your situation with a trained counselor. Do not attempt to appease your ex or persuade him; by maintaining contact with him, you allow yourself to remain open to his mechanisms and being manipulated by him.

Answer Totally ignore the narcissist. Have only contact that is mandated by the court. Do not speak with the N unless you have to and then only provide as short an answer as possible. Do not answer phone calls, e mails, US Mail, text messages. Do not talk about the N to others (he will assume that you still care if you are speaking about him). Avoid any third party contact with the N. I cannot stress enough that you need to REMOVE any narcissistic supply that you provide to the N. NO CONTACT. NO CONTACT. NO CONTACT. Have absolutely no reaction to his outbursts, remarks, acts of kindness or any other type of attempted contact he may make toward you or persons close to you. Once you take away ALL NARCISSISTIC SUPPLY, the N will move on to find other sources and will eventually leave you alone. If you must have contact because of children, keep it as minimal as is possible. Do not say "hello" or "good bye." Provide yes or no answers and if possible let the N know that you have totally moved on and are no longer even the slightest bit interested in him or anything to do with him. If it kills you, do not engage at all with the N. When the time is appropriate, you should tell children the truth about the N and at all costs, provide the APPROPRIATE EXAMPLE for your children to follow. Teach your children empathy, even empathy for the N...

How do you deal with it?? You don't.. MOVE ON.. IGNORE IGNORE IGNORE. They will eventually get the message and find a new victim. Celebrate when they are gone ...... When God removes someone from your life -- that is for a reason -- do NOT run after them....

Answer 2

I am not looking for revenge nor am I trying to heal. I just want it to end. What buttons do I push?

Answer 3

The best way to do so would be meeting a lawyer and getting the papers done.

Answer 4

Before you divorce apply all peaceful means. Have spoke with spouse about his/her behavior.

Answer 5

leave. become boring and leave.