How can you get healing for your Narcissism?

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I came to the conclusion recently that my sister, who is an undiagnosed narcissist, should steer her "talents" for want of a better word into writing fantasy books.

She has a high IQ and living in the fantasy world that she does, she could put this onto paper. She would often make up stories when we were young and usually horror to scare the living daylights out of me. She writes a blog where she pretends to be a dominatrix and loves to tell me of her rude stories and the rude replies she receives. She can't hold down a normal job longer than 6 months to a year because she gets fired because of her vile mouth because she is very sensitive to criticism. Her most recent departure was her 5th sacking.. however she twists it round by referring to it as an unfair constructive dismissal so then she can attempt to sue, but never follows through, claiming her poor health prevented her doing so.

She has gone through one to one and group therapy but always comes out announcing blame on our parents and my treatment of her. Incidentally she claims she was in counselling for 10 years but this is yet another fantasy she has taken from my life.

She has started going to the gym since she has always been overweight and says she feels great for it and looks great too, since she loves to talk about herself in that way alot. However she has also taken to picking up men in the club, some of them married or in a relationship she doesnt care it seems. I warned her she will get a reputation but she doesnt care. She thinks she can do no wrong, as long as she is having a good time.

I sadly don't think my sister will ever take my advice about writing a fantasy book. But I think, if I at least try and suggest an answer to focus her mind on something she is naturally good at, she may one day try it.

thanks, maxine.