well lets say if a person hits you, (you hit them back) you hittting that person back is an ex. of provoking. Its also a term or use of bullying. So if you ever do this at school get ready to get ure...
Change counsellor - and do it now! Blaming the victim is the hallmark of an unempathic and ignorant mental health professional! You don't need another abuser in your life. True, it takes two to tango...