I think the question really is, what is he willing to do with this information? You should expect to go through hoops and counseling to get things back on track--not ever an easy thing to do.
If the deed of this property is not in your wife's name and you went to court and the property was solely in you name then you can call the police for your estranged wife trespassing, but, if her...
If there is no custody order then the law presumes that the primary custodial parent can allow visitation at his or her descretion as long as it is reasonable.
Meaning the primary custodial parent...