How can you tell if a girl or a guy likes you?

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How to Know When a Girl or a Guy Likes You

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IF HE LIKES YOU HE/SHE WILL: (I'm using a guy in my examples.)

look at you and when you catch him, he tends to look away.
Text/call you on his own if you did it first.
Make up excuses to talk to you.
Find ways to be around you.
Pretend to like someone else.
Become your friend.
Be playful with you.
Try to make you laugh/feel better.
P.S. If you don't know if a guy likes you tell them in someway, and you will be able to assume if they do, by the way that they react.

Here are some things to look for to know when a girl or a guy likes you:

Keep an eye on how many times you catch her/him staring at you.
Take notice of whether s/he smiles at you a lot.
Look for whether s/he focuses on you in a crowd.
Walk to her and talk to her/him see if she wants to go out with you.
Pay attention to any significant changes in her/his behavior toward you recently.
Start showing her/him a bit more interest and see how they respond.
Have a friend talk to her/him or one of her/his friends about you.
Ask, '[name], are you interested in me?'
Look for signs of teasing.

Tips: Hopefully you will not have to use steps 7 or 8, but if you're having difficulty reading her/him, these steps are your last resort! Remember, this is not an exact science, and it may take a few mistakes to perfect your technique.

Here are more explanations from WikiAnswers contributors:

The easiest way to tell (for anyone) is to just take an innocent step into their personal space. If they aren't interested then they will step away. If they are interested then they will set closer boundaries for you and will therefore not mind your closer-than-normal presence.

I'm a girl and when I like a guy I try to seem "uninterested" or "unavailable" just so they think they can't have me and want me more. Before me and my boyfriend were going out, he tried to be near me all the time; tried to find a way to touch my shoulders, arms, hands, feet, etc.; always tried to put his arm around me. When I said that I was cold or tired, he always put his arm around me and said things like, "Do you want me to warm you up?" and, "Lay your head on my shoulder." Overall it is really easy to tell if a guy likes you or not.

One of the signs that a boy likes you is when he always teases you or makes fun/jokes.

He seems to find reasons to be with or near you. He may come up with what you think are lame or legit reasons to speak to you, call you, ask something. Try watching if he looks into your eyes or at least eye contact when he talks to you. Does he find ways to be closer to your body, near you, sit close or on the same side of the room as you? Does he talk to you instead of at you? Does he want your opinion? Cares what you have to say? Does he seem to be around you often, when he can? Does his face lighten up or seem to go from stress to unstressed when you walk in or say hello? A guy may not be obvious about it either, especially if he's shy, or maybe a little unsure of himself, which doesn't mean he's a loser at all but probably warmer from with in or more depth to him, more sensitive.

Boys might not tell you directly, but they may tell someone. Or perhaps when you are not around but your friend is there he will ask for you.
I'm a girl and I like two guys that are both my friends, and I think they like me cuz: 1 of them told me a secret that he only told me n my other friend, one that could really affect his like (we r not BFFs we r just good friends so this means alot 4 me) so if he talks to u alot datz a good sign. the other one: when we wer patnerin up, i didnt have a partner and he was staring at me the whole time, till he had the guts to walk over to me and ask me to be his partner, and then the whole block we sat there talking and goofing off. We wer sharin deep stuff. and we alwayz look at eachother during class if someone duz something funny or we remembr an inside joke. AND hez alwayz staring at me. AND in the morningz he alwayz walks over 2 me and sayz hi n we talk a little. AND a whole bunch of other stuff dat i dont feel like typin righ now. so i think any of those are good signs.
You will know if a guy likes you because he will not hesitate to make eye-contact; he will either stare if he thinks you won't notice or hold your gaze when you catch him in the act (if he has a lot of confidence). If a guy is interested, he will also go out of his way to be as near you as possible without being obvious. Of course, the rules don't apply to all men, but generally, if he likes you, you WILL know it, without a doubt.

I'm a guy and usually when it comes to asking girls out i only ask them out if im like 95% sure they like me. And girls if a guy asked you out answer it for youself don't discuss it with your friends. Also if you now a guy has a phone ask him for his number most guys would probably say yes unless a they dont like you, or if they just walk a way without an answer thats usally a sign that they like you. If you do get there number text them like every other day ONLY if they respond. When texting someone if they dont respond it usally means they're no interested. TAKE THE HINT. Also if a guy likes you he will usally look at you a lot as long as you don't sit right next to them. If you notice a guy looking at you a lot and then looking a way when you look at them thats a sure hin that they like you

I'm a guy and I think it depends, and different guys are different. Eye contact and attention isn't always the best way to tell. If a guy is shy he may get intimidated by girls he likes and actually make less eye contact

I'm a guy, and I find it real hard to let a girl know I like her. I try to be funny, I smile (because I can't help it), I try to be close to her, but I can't verbally let her, or anyone know. Many guys have the same problem.

I'm a guy. If a guy is into you, he will ask you out, or he'll most definitely go out with you when you ask him first. There are no exceptions to that rule, unless he was with someone else at the time and wants to be true to them. So unfortunately, if a guy does not go out with you when you ask him out, he does not like you.

Here are some of the signs: he acts distracted when he's around you and fumbles for things. From the corner of your eye you think he is looking at you but when you look up he turns away abruptly and you think you are imagining things. He tries to like all the things you do. Your instinct tells you that he feels for you but your rational part says you are sure to be wrong.

I think you can tell if a guy likes you if he always looks at you, he always wants to see you smile, he doesn't like it when other guys talk to you, he looks at you when you are doing something, he follows you places, he doesn't know how to act when he is with you.

A guy is interested in a girl if he says "yes" to things she asks him to do. Time is very valuable to a guy, and if he is obliging and generous with his time, a girl certainly has his attention. Especially if he's a busy guy, he'll make time for a girl if he likes you.

He will make you feel special. He will be romantic. He will not move too fast. He will consider your feelings and take things slow.

He will show off, sometimes on small things. (For example, my crush at the moment was drinking in front of me, but then stopped when I said it was uncool.)

I knew a guy who would try to embarrass his friends when they were around me. He wanted to look funny and seem cooler than his friends.

Sometimes a guy who likes you can behave in a very confusing way and be hard to understand. It might make you wonder whether they like you or hate you.

Shy guys like me will most likely tell their friends. Some will be confused if you flirt with them because they have never had this happen before, so they don't know what to do. Most guys don't do things unless they know exactly what they are doing. Girls just confuse us.

A guy likes you if he: 1. Makes fun of you. 2. Has cute little nicknames for you. 3. Remembers everything you say, in the smallest most insignificant conversations. 4. Finds any excuse to touch you or sit next to you. 5. Talks and looks at you differently than other people. 6. Talks about you with your friends.

A confident guy is easier to read. He'll make eye contact. Shy guys can be very hard to read but there are some sure signs: They might be looking at you but if you look back then they'll quickly look away. He will always laugh at funny things you do. Don't get discouraged if he talks more to other girls. Shy guys are very attracted to outgoing girls, so don't be afraid to be outgoing! Here's what you can do: when you're in a group of people and he's there, ask to the group if anyone would like to go on a walk, or go do something with you. Be sure that it would be a two person activity. If the guy you like agrees, then this is good. You can guarantee you'll have a good conversation with him if you ask a lot of questions. Be sure to tell him if you have something in common.

Confident men who aren't afraid to stare at you and ask you out may just want you for the sex.

Sometimes a guy will pretend to flirt with other girls in your presence, to make you jealous.

I tend to like shy guys, so it may be hard to read them at first. But, once they open up, they give you their confidence completely. I find that they will: 1. Make eye contact with you, then look away when your eyes meet. 2. Always be willing to help you our or do you favors (like rides home, or physical work). 3. Will always look for you in a crowd, then when he finds you will act like he doesn't see you. 4. Will laugh at all your jokes/will try to make you laugh. 5. Talks to his friends about you. 6. Mentions activities that you are interested in so there is a chance for you two to do them together. 7. Will always find a reason to talk to you or touch you in any way. 8. Pokes fun at you, but in a nice way (unless he is very young and immature). 9. Seems genuinely interested in what you have to say. 10. Remembers little things that you've talked about before a long time ago, and brings them up in conversations to let you know that he remembered. 11. He will always stare at you, and your friends may notice it too. 12. When you are talking with him and your friends, he will only comment on something that you say, or will look at you whenever he speaks. I hope that these help, but remember, you can't always rely on physical things. I think that most of all it is a feeling. If he likes you, your instinct tells you. Go with your gut. Don't let your logic tell you any different.

I highly recommend the new book: "He's just not that into you." It is so right on about how to tell if a guy likes you! :) Actually, the first rule of thumb is that a guy will ask you out if he likes you. To get him comfortable enough to do that, all you have to do is smile and seem interested in him as a person (just in case he's the shy type).

A guy who likes you may tend to notice new things about you, and compliment you.

The truth is, most girls can tell if a guy likes them. If you get the feeling that he likes you, you're probably right.

Okay, I'm a girl and i think its pretty much the same, i always think about what "signs" hell be giving me and ill realize i gave him the same ones, like staring, and then turning away, or blushing, or teasing but then making wsure you know there kidding, they like to see you smile and will do whatever they can do just to touch you, but not in an obvious way, like "accidentally" touch your knee or arm, not too obvious tho. guys are cute that way, and ill always find im even more attracted to them when they like you, but only by the minor signs. it feels good to know someones watchin you so if a guy or girl sees something they like compliment them, it feels good! neway thats about it, you should know, yes guys have the hardest jobs and i sympathize with them but just go for it, truth is if you think they do, most likely they do, and try not to give these signs when you dont like them, then your leading them on, thats not cool!
I'm a guy, and I think that in most ways, we couldn't be clearer when we like someone, girls, on the other hand, are more complicated than debugging Windows Vista !!! If there's a girl a like, then I tend to be more hesitant, self-conscious and shy around her, but OK round all the other girls. I won't look at them as often as I look anywhere else. In the end, it's probably just as effective as doing the opposite.
i disagree with the above, even though its like a well known fact for guys that girls are complicated and hard to read. But the truth is guys just cant catch a hint so no matter how much we do make signs it like barely gets through! So dont blame us for not being able to catch the MILLIONS of signs we send out!
I would like spank a girl when she does something, then they would look at me with like an innocent face, and some of them would like hit me back... those are the sign of intrest, but if she acts different from the signs above, just make a joke about how shes so naughty and you just have to punish her a little. Deep down a chick just want to be tamed and conquered
You've gotta be kidding!!! i don't know what kind a girl you've tested that theory on but i would never go for that!!we dont want to be tamed and conquered we want to be treated right and courted!!! if you expect that slapping a girl in the ass is gonna show that shes interested then i doubt you'll get any response because that move will prob make her completely uninterested!! in my personal oppinion telling a girl shes naughty will only work on a slut! no self respectable girl should go for a guy who does that!

I'm a girl and although a slap on the ass would return a slap on the face(I would be pissed because that shows no respect for a girl's body), in my opinion it is true that deep down a girl just wants to be tamed and conquered. Pushovers are NOT attractive at all; a guy should be manly and fun to be with. Girls put guys through a lot of crap(it is true that girls are cruel) and a guy who wilts or can't defend himself, well, if he can't defend himself, how do you expect him to defend you?

Usally a girl will tell her best friend then her bff will try to be nice and tell the guy then he will know. However, it depends on the girl. I am a girl and personally, I'd never tell my bff because I'll be teased mercilessly about the guy lol.

I'm a girl and if I liked a guy, I would 1) tease and "play" with him 2) I would try to sit closer to him or move near him in some way 3) I would try to get his attention, example walk around in front of him a lot, smile and try to catch his eye everytime I saw him 4) I would talk to him and try to know him better 5)flirting is part of #4 XD
If he constantly reminds you about his plans, such as "I'm going to the mall this weekend," he is hinting that you should go with him, or at least hoping that you will change your plans and go there the same date and time, with him or not.
I knew a guy that liked me, and when I was around him, he would try and trip his friend and tease him so I would laugh. If a guy struggles to make you laugh, he likes you.
Well, recently, a good friend of mine (I like her) broke up with her boyfriend, and I kinda helped her calm down a bit. Well, recently, she started teasing me, and calling me "heyy, Mr. Handsome", or similar things. I'm taking this as a good sign, and I'm kinda going out with her today. Not a big date, just a lunch and a movie. Also, you'll know a girl likes you if she constantly looks at you, like I do when I try to find her in the crowd.
I have a locker next to the guy i like and he is always teasing me and making jokes and standing really close to my body like we are slow dancing or something. He is always smile and stareing at me and he does look me in the eyes when we have convos. So im pretty sure he likes me.

For really bold guys

The guy I like, I'm pretty sure he likes me. He seems to try and find excuses to touch me like high-fiving, or taking a box I'm carrying for me. Bold guys will try to catch your eye often, and hold the gaze. The tottaly non-shy guys try and make it more obvious. He may flirt with other girls around you and look at you to see if you get jealous. The guy I like is like tottaly the opposite of shy(so am I, we're perfect for eachother lol!), so I thought I'd put this in for the other peeps who like a bold dude. and a lot of this stuff appliess to us gals too. :)
kiss them on the mouth and if they get mad they dont like you.
Ok there was this guy in year 7 who used 2 like me, but I rejected him so he doesn't like me anymore, but he used 2... 1)poke me with his pen in maths and elbow me a lot 2)annoy me all other times 3)one time he ran up to me and opened my bag and one of my best friends asked him if he fancied me and he went bright red and went off. he was nice 2 me 4 the rest of the day - in english (last lesson) he was giving out books and he got to mine, smiled at me and put it at the bottom of the pile. In parents evening that day he was behind a desk and when I got there he was really pleased 2 c me. He ignored everyone else and gave me a massive grin, but I looked straight past him, so he has been ignoring me since. I hated him and I still do. Now there's this guy who I love, and I think it's mutual, we catch the same bus, so we're together every morning and afternoon, we go to the same clubs (orchestra, wind orchestra and yr 8 band), we play 3 instruments the same at the same level (keyboard, piano and guitar) and I play the clarinet and he plays the flute. the signs he gives me thatwe feel the same are: 1) he stares at me a lot 2)he's always creeping up on me 3) forever giving me high fives 4)talks to me a lot 5) tells me his secrets 6) makes me laugh 7) smiles at me I think I'm guna drop a few more hints, because I haven't told anyone - even my bff - and don't plan to (even him) until I'm sure we feel the same.

There is a great post on ezinearticles that talks about this subject. http://ezinearticles.com/?How-to-Tell-If-a-Girl-Likes-You-Easily&id=1652518
He will show signs: he will smile at you every time he sees you and do a cute nod; he will sit with you or ask you to sit with him; he will be nice to you all the time; he will finaly ask you out.
He might always be staring at you, running his hand through his hair, or avoiding your eyes when you look at him. He might also be whispering around you, (nicely,) and teasing you, (nicely,). He will laugh at your jokes, even if they arent't funny. Good luck with love! Give it a shot! :)

There are some guys, however, that may like you, but will do none of the things above. For example, there is a guy that I know likes me (and how I know that is a long story, so I won't explain), and yet he purposefully doesn't do anything above so that I wouldn't know. He hardly ever makes eye contact, he doesn't try to talk to me much, he never laughs at my jokes, etc. And everytime I touch him, he flips out. Yet he does like me as more than a friend. So don't think that if a guy seems to sort of shun you, in a way, it might not be that he's repulsed by you. He may like you.
Sometimes guys can be really weird over whether they like you or not. Sometimes even if they know you like them IN THAT WAY because everyone knows they still don't do anything. Watch out, because sometimes if a guy is hanging around you and wants to be in a group with you for projects and stuff it's just because you're smart or he wants to look good.

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