You are usually not able to change your thinking patterns without a good therapist. Cognitive Behavioral therapy is a proven method of helping you unlearn old unhealthy thinking patterns and form new healthy ones instead. Find a good therapist who specializes in this method of talk therapy, and you'll be most pleased with your results.
The basics of changing your thinking pattens involve these steps:
- Recognizing the unhealthy pattern when you do it.
- Recognizing what is illogical and unhealthy about that pattern.
- Learning how to substitute a new healthy pattern instead.
- Learning how to anticipate situations in which the old unhealthy thoughts might pop up and how to counter them