Marriage is not witchcraft. You cannot "turn" ANYONE into ANYTHING.
If your wife IS a domineering nightmare who does not respect you and is a black hole for your hard-earned money... that's what she is. You married her. I doubt you can change that, and if the change into this person was gradual, it's nothing you can change with the flick of a wrist.
If you WANT to turn her into that, you might want think long and hard about why you would want that. See a therapist. And talk to you wife about what you want.
Hey Buddy, where have you been all my life? I have been with domineering men, but my fantasy is finding a guy like you!! For real!! It would be turn the table time! But actually I am not sure how I could even trust that a guy like you would'nt "turn" on me.Like because of my own past experiences. Geez, what a wacky world it is.
Neila222