How do I get over my shyness around boys?
You don't have to start with a doctor. There are several self help books out there that are much less expensive. I did go to a psychologist for 2 sessions, but then quit. I later bought a book about overcoming shyness, and it had the same thing that he told me in 1-2 pages of information. Many books… say that shyness is NOT just a personality trait, and that it can be overcome. Many people become shy at a certain age- for instance, the teenage years, and then grow out of it. Books also seem to suggest gradually submitting yourself to things that make you anxious. Some people are shy in many situations, and some are only anxious in one- ex. going out on a date. Seek information, like you are doing on the internet- at forums, on websites, etc. If at all possible, hang around people that aren't snobby or judgemental over silly things. Taking a job that requires you to be more outgoing, like someone else suggested might be a good idea also. I was a waitress a few years ago, and I think that it helped me to be more outgoing . If none of this helps enough, then I would think about going to a doctor, maybe for medication or something like that. One of my best friends took paxil and she said that it really helped her. Use your own judgment to decide. Don't be afraid to ask others for their opinion. Answer Go to your doctor and tell him you have social anxiety or depression. The doctor will probably prescribe an SSRI like Lexapro or Paxil, and this may significantly help with your shyness. It may also help to see a therapist. Answer Not a good place for an answer to that question because the solution may not be a simple fix. However, that being said try to understand the internal fears that promote your shyness, and take steps to work through them understanding that it won't be easy. Success usually comes from lots of previous failures. Answer I'm wondering why you want to get rid of shyness. It's a part of your personality and who you are! However, if you feel that you fear certain situations and its negatively affecting your life, maybe you should try doing something "outgoing" to overcome the shyness. Take a public speaking course. Join a theatre group. Get a part time job in sales or customer service. I don't think you can totally get RID of shyness. You may be able to lessen it. Keep in mind that even some celebrities are shy. They are able to act on stage or film and make public appearances but are unable to approach people for conversations. There's nothing wrong with that! ~ T Answer One more thing -- DO NOT jump on the medication bandwagon until you do FULL RESEARCH about the drug you may want to go on. If you're thinking about Lexapro, for example, read all you can online (from people who've USED it - not necessarily from doctors) and what's involved with usage and withdrawal. I immediately jumped to taking Lexapro after a traumatic event in life and boy do I regret it! If I had only known then what I know now! Do some research first! (MORE)
Call the pros Although some people overcome their innate shyness by themselves as they grow older and more confident and comfortable with themselves, it is rare. If your shyness is truly debilitating and prevents you from meeting people or advancing in the work place, please seek professional hel…p. OR Try & Be Confident, i use to be very shy in front of people but then I just said ok e.g. you want to talk to someone ur shy of, just just say I'll do it once. The first time you did it you will find you could do it again, more you do it, the more you will become less shy :] My Advice. (MORE)
To get over a boy all you have to do is just hang out more and more with your friends. And if you have a really GREAT best friend(s) and you know that she can keep a secret then you tell her that you have problems with getting over a boy. It feels a lot better when you get something off your chest. … . ANSWER:. Well the thing is...that think about it. i mean u have a whole life ahead of you and there might be many guys in your lives but only that one guy that is meant for u and i am not saying that there is no such thing as young love but the thing is...when ur born...ur born with a life partner that is perfect for u and one day along your life u will find him no matter what...and if you feeel like this guys is your love. your first love, you really cant get over him. cus its ur first love, the first guy who made your realize what love is. and u cant quite get over him but your gonna have to learn that no matter what u do...ur gonna have to wait to find "the one" (MORE)
A majority of us are shy because we have had negative experience in our childhood, where after expressing our thoughts to either classmates or even your parents, you are ridiculed straight after. So from those experiences, your mind is in a state of negativity already. These thoughts if not forgotte…n can be built up over the years to your adulthood and as a result can lock your lips in most situations. If you want to overcome this, you must first confront that fear. That day when you had the bad experience, the person you were speaking with might have had a bad day or he/she didn't realise that they were hurting you. None of us are perfect, in fact the truth is far from it. Don't let what has happened in your past determine your future. Analyse what happened before and the most important thing you can do in the world is forgive that person. Without forgiveness you will be locked up in your own cell. Forgiveness releases your mind and allows you to move forward. Being shy is detrimental to your life, you won't be able to fulfil your potential. You don't have to be the life of the party, but be an active communicator. The first step as described above is to realize your fear and if anyone has hurt you in the past, you must FORGIVE into order to move on. (MORE)
It completely depends on the boy. Some will pick for looks, others for personality, some for shyness, others because they have things in common. The older the boys get, the more specific they are. But its impossible to say all boys like this or that...If this is a young boy, he may not know what he …likes yet and that's great. It gives him an opportunity to try new things and find new attractions. Be careful tho because some boys unfortunatley will only show interest in some girls whom they think they can just have sex with....this is NOT the way to go. My hubby liked that I spoke my mind and wasn't afraid to give an opinion when we first met...however with one of his previous girlfriends he liked that she would always agree with him (never lasts long if you show no individuality) and a friend of mine chose his girlfriend because they were in the same career and have common interests. Best advice, just ask the boy in question (if there is one) and see what he says... (MORE)
Answer . The real secret to overcoming shyness is this: think about the other person. It sounds simple, but it's true. As long as you are focused on others ... who they are, what they like, what might be helpful to them ... you won't feel anxious about yourself.
influence and genetics . It's possible. Your family members can influence you to become shy if they're the same way. I do believe there are traces of your parent's personality in you and it could include shyness.
The answer depends quite a bit on your age. Those who are naturally shy when young will often grow out of their shyness as they become more confident with age. Persistent or chronic shyness into adulthood can be overcome with psychotherapy.
Just for starters if you have a best friend that you dont know very well talk to them be yourself if you love them enough in spirit to treat them like a friend then go! If you ever had a feeling where someones talking and you want to join them soon you will grow tired of not being apart of things so… your shyness will surely bust open and you will be free and trust me it feels good The above is good and Just from experience from being older don't let opportunities slip by, because you will regret them for the rest of your life. The saying a coward dies a thousand deaths but a hero dies only one, well that is SO true, study it make it your motto. Just know that most girls/guys are just as vulnerable as you, if you are a good person and if they are a good person then you will see how easy it is after the first awkwardness of the first conversation. And if after that first conversation you either have a new friend or you had a little time of awkwardness, but meeting new people far out weighs any negative. So don't live your life with regrets, BELIEVE ME. (MORE)
Just think of girls as your guy bestfriends! Every girl is easy to be around. Say to your self "there is NO reason to be shy around girls" Because most generally, once you become older and older, wanted to get married and to start a family you need to have confidence, be yourself, outgoing around gi…rls. If you are not an outgoing person to begin with.. thats perfectly okay too! Making sure with girls that you are not as loud as others, will make you more comforable around her. Dont think so negitave about being shy, being shy is just being more reserved. If waiting naturally is a problem, thats okay..... here are more ways to help overcome shyness. Find your strenghts (good qualitlys in you) , Learn to LOVE yourself! , Dont think to youself in the situation. example (If a girl you like comes up to you and asks you how your doing, dont think about everything! like her not liking you back, or you looking bad, or saying something you shouldnt have. Accept rejection... understand this is apart of life and not everybody is going to like you. Dont label yourself. Especially labeling your self as the "shy one" Labeling yourself as the shy one.... holds you back from being the person you are. If this information does not help search your question on the internet! Take care xx (MORE)
Take it slowly. I have a friend who used to be super shy. But the other day she really stood up to this girl who had been bossing her around. Try at first talking to your parents about your problem, then do what they say. If this doesn't help, just do what you are shy to. Pretend no-one is around. I…t' s just you there. If you're still shy then try doing it like other kids. Perhaps make it out as a joke. It can help if others think you are funny or like what you did. Or say things like, 'I don't need to be shy. There's no reason for it,' and do what you need to do. (MORE)
that dose not means he like you it just means he like to firt with you i know you should talk to him hang out with him sometimes
Who aren`t you shy of ? Try thinking of that person when you are around who ever you are shy of. I have never done this before because I am not really shy but you can try this and see if it works! :)
Stop putting yourself down, and start building yourself up! Get a good book on "How to improve your self esteem" and study it, work at it. There are no shortcuts. Do the work and it will pay off big time.
Either get him out of your head by getting with another boy ;) Dont worry the new boy will be much better AND Get all your mates round and have a good old sleepover with your mates and slag of every single boy who has ever hurt you
Shyness is when people are nervous around large crowds or people who they don't know.
How do you get over shyness with a girl you like and how do you get her to like you once your over your shyness?
well first thing you have to do is try hard to get over your shyness then once you are over your shyness and you get the guts to talk to her. Step 1: Check breath. Step 2: check teeth (nothing in them). 3: be sure there is nothing wrong with your clothes. such as Pants unzipped ripped pants etc.…. AND ALWAYS KEEP A SMILE :) (MORE)
To get over your shyness around girls, the first thing you want to do is to change your mindset. You probably don't think too highly of yourself if you are feeling this way for the fear of what they will think or what they would say if you spoke to them. The following are some things you can do to s…tart to overcome this: 1. Smile! By smiling you are making yourself more approachable thus making other girls more open towards to you. 2. Dress confidently. If you dress in a presentable manner and put a bit of effort in, you'll start feeling better about yourself. Get that haircut and buy that shirt that is going to make you a bit more pleasing to look at. 3. Since you are shy, you are going to have some trouble communicating. Have some questions ready to ask people and practice asking these questions in front of a mirror. This should give you a good start to overcoming shyness around girls. (MORE)
Well I would say you're not doing enough to get their attention. Consider this, do you think you're approachable? Ask a close friend this, they probably can give you an honest answer. Some simple tips on how to be approachable: . Eye contact - as you walk past them look them straight in th…e eye, do not be afraid this suggests that you lack confidence . Smile - once you have their eye contact, smile and make sure they know you're friendly. . Say hi: if the above steps have gone well, just walk a simple greeting "Hey there" will do. This is probably the most basic way to get started and make sure they know you're approachable and ready for further conversation. (MORE)
Think futuristic. Imagine that you have gone through a relationship with this person and broken up already. It will take away the nervousness that holds you back, and you'll realize they are human too. Not anything to be so shy or nervous over!
If boys are lying do they go all shyness around you if you ask them a question then after if you talk to him they are mean?
Your question is not very specific. It is possible that their behavior is a reaction to being caught in a lie, but there could be other reasons. Generally, however, if you believe someone is lying, you are very likely to be correct.
Of course! Just like almost any problem with a horse, all it takes is some time and maybe an experienced trainer to help you. If you have no idea what you are doing it is usually best to seek a trainer's advice.
im shy too but my mom said eventually ill get over it so u will 2. but if u want a faster way just be your self, get some one u know that will help u talk to the person or talk to the person but try to image the person like they arent there try some of those ways
A solution for shyness is exposure. Getting out in the world and exposing yourself to people will help to overcome some of the symptoms of shyness. It is a gradual process, but someone who is shy sometimes isolates themselves from others or hides in the background and may find it hard to take that f…irst step in getting better. I wrote an article on some ways to overcome or control the feelings of shyness. Here is the link if you are interested in reading it.. http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/1854735/how_to_overcome_shyness.html (MORE)
Join a club or a team. You interact with lots of new people in a setting where you all have something in common, and it helps you to open up. You might especially want to try acting. Not only are you around lots of people doing something fun, but you are pretty much forced to get over shyness on ope…ning night in front of the audience. (MORE)
I am in the seventh grade and also very shy, and here is what I do: Don't let them beat you. You just have to make an effort to know people, talk to them, be friendly in the halls, say hi to anyone you know. Don't let them think of you as shy, and don't be what they want you to be. Be yourself. But …be yourself with everyone. Well not necessary everyone, only people you think you can trust, but you don't have to give out any secrets, just make jokes and go with the flow M (MORE)
Yes, shyness is an emotion where you feel anxiety, fright or nervousness and just don't want to show or display yourself. An example of this is stage fright , where you are too nervous to go and perform or entertain on stage.
she will progress in talking to you and soon you will talk all the time it happend to me
Try staying calm in the situation, and also try thinking of some thing else. To get over shyness, try talking or making good friends with the girl(s) that you are shy around :)
Act yourself and be cool. Don't get all worked up if its the first time he's over. See what he wants to do. Watch movies, chill out, or even play a game.
You really like this guy but you feel shy around him how do you over the shyness and get him to ask you out?
Okayy well guys like girls that are confident but not to confident.. So when you see him just start off with saying hey or something.. Then things will take care of itself.. I did this and it worked.. And now were together
There is no antidote..its like asking the antidote to human love. there is no way out you have to deal with it. try forceing your way through the shyness e.g gurl or guy yu like? to shy to talk to them, within the first 3 second of seeing them say hi. so yu can get past that barrier. just relax, bre…ath and focus you should do fine. pretend its somthing yu do everyday. you'll be find just believe in yourself. (MORE)
well considering that im a girl i would just want you to be urself around me if i didnt like u i would probably gotten up and walked away.just be urself so yea just take a deep breath and gather enough courage to do it....ok??
Easy, u just have to get him out of ur mind n start dating other guys especially the ones that your most attracted to
I know what it's like, I'm really shy and I've tried everything to get over shyness but nothing works. I think that it takes time and patience, and if you believe in yourself and believe that there is a special gift inside of you, You will overcome shyness and everything will be alright.
Shyness may not be a permanent. Children often outgrow shyness. Behavioral changes and therapy can help people feel more at ease. Furthermore, some aspects of shyness are positive. Shy people are frequently good listeners and are empathetic.
In many cases, adults realize they are shy. In a sense they have diagnosed themselves, and may take steps to overcome their shyness. Teen-agers may also try to remedy their situations.
Shyness is a personality trait related to.biology and experiences. shyness related to the brain cannot be changed. parents can provide a nurturing environment that helps prevent shyness. For adults.the issue is.more to treatment than prevention.
.blush, tense up, or start sweating.avoid eye contact. become very quiet. Symptoms vary because there are degrees of shyness. A person might be very quiet when meeting new people, but then become talkative when she feels comfortable with them.
.The person may be guided by a self-help book or participate in individual or group therapy. Treatment may include medication. Prescription drugs like Paxil . Relaxation tapes and CDs. aromatherapy .
Can shy young teens experiencing euphoria due to bipolar cover up there shyness and appear as though they are outgoing especially around their crush?
Sure they can. How good a job they do depends on how good an actor they are. For most shy people, this is likely to be "not very good at all."
Talk to him. Even though you're shy. Just do it. Even though youthink you can't. You're wrong about that: you totally can, andnothing bad will happen. It's so simple, even Yoda would say it.
Nearly everyone is shy at some time in their life, and there is no shame in feeling that way. The question is: Are you going to let it stop you? If you like a person and want to ask them out, why not try? The worst thing that will happen is they will say no, but at least you will know you gave it yo…ur best effort. If you let your shyness dominate, you may never know if the person would have gone out with you. Most shy people tell themselves that they will just be rejected if they ask someone out, but that is not always true. In fact, the person you like might be hoping you will ask; the person might be shy too, and waiting for you to say something. So, what have you got to lose? When you see the person, be friendly, and ask if they'd like to get an ice cream or a sandwich or a soda (or whatever). Keep it casual and if they say yes, that's great. If not, there is always next time, and sooner or later, as you get more practice with social conversation, you will find that you do get a date with a person you like. (MORE)
Be confident and be yourself all of the time. Smile at them a lot. I know it just comes automatically. Look into their eyes and feel like a feather. You'll do just fine.
Get involved with things you like to do. You will meet people with the same interests.
this is one of the weird things about people. If you can make yourself act like you are not shy around this boy soon you won't be. It works for anything you are scared of to a point. The limit will be things you should be scared of, like jumping out of aeroplanes and crashing cars.
Ask your guy friends and any women friends you might have to sometimes include you in social activities where there will be women, and not necessarily all women who are already with guys. Just start slow, and treat these occasions as what they are-- enjoyable social events with friends. Just mingle …and talk, no commitments, no drama, no expectations. You might find some women whose company you like, and just strike up friendships. Women are just like guys, only different. You have guy friends who are not like your other guy friends, right? Same thing. After a while the differences will start to grow on you. You'll see. (MORE)
How to be not shy at school and look confident and is there any exercises to help with the shyness or anything I can tell my self over and over again Xx?
To not be shy at school and look more confident you must have selfbelief. There aren't any physical exercises except taking deepbreaths when you feel nervous to help with the shyness. However,you can tell yourself over and over again that you are a goodperson, a nice person who is worthy of friendsh…ip. Tell yourselfthat you will not let shyness or anything else stand in your way ofmaking friends. (MORE)
What do you do when your boyfriend over react when he think that you hanging around another boy more than you hanging around him?
If your boyfriend overreacts because you're hanging around anotherboy more than him, tell him that you're just friends and you canspend more time with him, but you won't give up your friends.
Try talk to someone you're comfortable with. Talk to their friends,because if a close person you trust has friends, so their friendswould be trustful. :)