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For me it is in large part the beginning wherein she "puts" me in panties - with this, i am already submitting - offering my body to Her to decorate to her amusement and liking - i also offer myself for punishment when i am told i did wroing i attempt to rectify. Part is the tone she gives verbal commands - instructing me to hit my knees and look at down. She comes up behind me and grabs a tuft of hair and gently yanks. Orders me to take off shirt and present my chest to her so that she can pinch and such. It's more the attitude and the energy and verve put into it than the actual act.