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I am dealing with this myself. My ex boyfriend and I have been talking recently and one of the things that he loses patience with is my indecisiveness. Providing vague, recondite answers to a questions the could simply be answered, "yes" or no" is quite frustrating, it neither helps determine your need or provide insight into your wants. The reason I think I am so inept in making solid choices, is the "other" choice. Well, you want Chinese and I want Italian, but I know you want Chinese so I say, " Whatever" even though I know I want Italian??! There are simple examples of indecisiveness and more significant ones, like family plans. I know I'd like you there and I'm not sure how you feel about coming, and then I let "alter ego" obstacles get in the way and one very simple things becomes this complex compound where, " I'm having dinner with my family, I'd you to come." Would let him know both my need to spend time with my family, and my want for him to be there. Alas, so easy to answer on wiki answers, can I apply this determine need/ provide insight to wants in my reality with the man of my dreams? I pray.