You can, however, it requires that you file an answer to your spouses Complaint for Divorce and include a cross-complaint for divorce. If either through mutual consent or an order of the Matrimonial...
Go to an attorney and speak with them. They can do all the paper work for you, and then go to court. Or, If you can get her to sign a uncontested divorce form, then you won't need a lawyer to appear...
Those are only different ways to say the same thing. Suing for divorce is an older version that reflected divorce rules and procedures in the past. The more modern, more accurate term is filing for...