How do you deal with your mother who is emotionally abusive and very controlling?

Answer 1

• If you are no longer a minor and dealing with an emotionally abusive and very controlling mother first try to find out if your mother could possibly be going through perimenopause or menopause (hormones run wild during this change of life) or, if your mother is 60 years or older perhaps she may be suffering from the first stages of Alzheimer's (Dementia.) You could make an appointment with her doctor and although there is a patient confidentiality you could let your mother's doctor know what you are going through so that the next time your mother sees her doctor the doctor will be more aware of what is going on and perhaps do more tests on her. Try to find out if your mother is physically well first. If you are not a minor and you cannot resolve this then you can stay away from your mother for a few weeks at a time and then try asking her out for lunch and not go to her home. If she continues to be emotionally abusive and very controlling and the doctor has not come up with a reason for her behavior then you have no choice, but to make only frequent visits with your mother.
• If you are a minor (under 18) and your mother yells at you because you are not listening or stops you from going places you would like to go and you disagree this is not considered emotional abuse, but your mother is trying to keep you safe. Whether you like it or not she is older and wiser to the dangers of what can happen to a young person.