Answer:
Quite simple, all you have to do is stop the affair. Just think of the people that you're hurting, and maybe kids too.
If you say that that the two of you love each others, then ask your married lover to divorce his wife so the two of you can have life together. His wife didn't deserve the pain that his giving her and your helping him as well. The man that I married, it was me who discovered their love affairs, yes hell broke loose and lies keeps coming with this "He says, She says." My husband said that he was planning to break up with her only waiting for the right time to tell her so she wouldn't get hurt, Ditto!! He was also waiting for the right time to tell me that he was having an affair with this married woman he met on dating site...duh! so I made every ones life and problem easier, I told my husband he needs to move out and be with her, and I don't want to see him anymore. This is a man that supposed to love me till death do us part?...planning how to stop his affair?...wow! faith has his own role, I discovered it. So if he didn't wait to break up with her, maybe I will forgive him but I will still divorce him, but he made his bed so he needs to lay on it to.