How do you get the attention of a girl you love who doesn't return your love?

A Girl That Doesn't Love You Back

Here is advice:

- A lot of the advice here is on par; listen to these folks...they know their stuff. The best thing I can recomend is that if you're in love with a girl who doesn't feel the same way or express the same feelings to you...you should move on to someone who is interested. Point blank. It's simple, less painful, and much more effective. If you get into a friendship with you're "sweetie" you'll just put yourself through hell with you're heart burning to share this beautiful 'love' with her while having to hear of every other guy who win's her heart and attention. You'll always be second string with her; and if she knows you care for her and is playing you (like what was done to me); she'll just drag it all out and you're heart will be beaten beyond recognition. If a girl likes you, you'll know it...she'll make sure you do...trust me. If you show her you're back and find someone else she'll make efforts to get back into you're line of sight. Have some dignity and don't let her manipulate you or you're feelings. Best of luck!

• ** *** **** ***** ****** ******* ******** I couldn't find a way to post this as an 'answer' so I am 'improving' the existing answer. The best way to get a girl to love you/like you from a girl�s perspective- and this has actually happened to me.

I suggest dating someone else and making sure she knows. Women like to know that the men they are with are desirable. That is how my current boyfriend got me. :)Try it out and let me know, I think there is a 85% percent success rate with this one!!

Love is only a feeling. There is nothing complicated about it. If you love her and she doesn't love you then dont fight it. If it's going to happen it will happen according to her. That paragraph above about dating someone else to make sure she sees you are desirable is non sense. You can't creat love, it creates itself.

• It's not always possible, sometimes it just isn't "meant to be" however much you want it to. But if it is possible, here are a few pointers. These are the main reasons i fell for my present partner, and they defiantly influence feelings. a girl's

First, talk to her. If you want to be in a relationship with someone, especially if you're thinking life-long partners, you have to be able to talk to them. So call her, and have a chat - don't be afraid of looking like a fool, or having odd interests, it isn't an off-put unless they're obscene. Girls like being with men they feel they can communicate with, and it has more of an effect on desirability than looks or money.

Second, don't try to buy her off. No girl will respect a guy who spends all his money on her, in-fact it may make her suspicious of your intentions. If you see something that you know she will love, which is not tacky or extravagant, then buy it, by all means, but know that it should be seen as something special. Often men use presents as a way to manipulate their partners, or hide deceit, so many women will see them as distasteful, particularly a bunch of white roses (don't ask why, it just seems to be on all my girl-y friends' least-desirable-gift-list)

Third and last, be with her. It may seem obvious, but many men do not do this - when you see her, don't fill up the air with inane chatter or movements, stay still. It made the most massive impact on my feelings for my present partner, that he could just be there, holding me. This is also the best way to tell if you truly love her; if she is right for you, then being with her, still and quiet, should be the most comfortable, blissful, and overall right feeling you can ever experience. If it is, she will feel it too, and she will love you, even if she does not realize herself.

Good luck, may she be "the one" for you!

• This is a complicated question. Why do you think you "love" her? And does she not love you because she's had the opportunity to love you and chose not to, or does she even know that you are "in love" with her? Is it a crush and you would like to get to know her? If a girl is pushing you away, the best thing to do is offer to be her friend, be there for her, and don't throw yourself at her. The best way to develop a love relationship is to develop a friendship first. If that friendship blossoms into mutual love, then you've got a match made in heaven :) But if it doesn't, you still have a good friend.

• There really isn't anything you can do. Be a good friend, be there for her. Just lay off of the "love" subject for a while and she may see what a nice guy you are if you are content with beig her friend.

• I'm in a simular situation. I've more or less told her how I feel and she says she "likes" me too, but I can tell it's not in the same way. I will tell you this though. I did somthing really good for her (got her out of a sticky situation at school by doing a major-final- assignment for her) and she seemed to really respond. She wasn't expecting it and I think it may be the thing I use in the future to advance the relationship. If your like me, you don't want another friend. Maybe you could try somthing like what I did, make a gesture and observe the reaction.

• I once did a final assignment for a girl. I think there's a slim chance it could actually do good in terms of advancing a relationship. My experience was that it did not help. The girl was thankful for about 2 days, then she went on with life as usual, i.e. without paying much attention to me.

• Show her you love her. The basic steps: Hold her hands, hug her when she leaves, hold open the doors, tell her how much you really love her. Buy her things and offer to pay for her for things. Call her just to say hey and have a nice conversation.

• Sometimes you can't. I liked a girl for two years, hoping one day we could be more than friends, I tried too hard, was too nice, I would do anything for her, but she never appreciated anything. So now i have too except that i have to move on. What you can do is show them you care, but avoid them at times, this way they want to be with you. Try say no to them as much as possible, this is what i find really hard, but you have to, to keep them interested, otherwise you will always be just a friend.

• Love is a tough one. All girls are different. just dont be like me and get pissed off at them for not loving you back. big mistake, theyl just be through with you all together. dont swamp them, give them their space, then if they really do like you theyll miss your company. definetly dont talk about yourself all the time and how much you love them, cant emphasize that enough, almost ruined a friendship. i'd much rather have a friend then an enemy. there is a thin line between love and hate.

• Dude, two most important things: Be a friend to her first and have confidence in yourself i.e. don't be someone or do something just cause you think others want/expect it of you. You're on your own afterwards dude, but hang on to these two fundamentals and you should do okay. Oh and one more thing, experience is the greatest teacher of them all so even if this one doesn't work out, keep on trying. You'll get it someday. Oh, and one more thing: DON'T BUY HER APPROVAL! You need to believe that you're cool enough, that just spending time with you should be a gift for her. And if you can really start to believe you're that cool (though careful you don't get too cocky), she will start to believe it too. You know, make her laugh, make her smile, treat her like one of your friends. You wouldn't buy one of your guy friend's jewelry would you? The thing is, you can't force attraction; it's something that happens, not something that is accomplished. Therefore you become attractive by being attractive, not by doing something attractive. Does that make any sense? It's complicated I know, but just keep your chin up and always keep learning.

• Now the guy above says everything I wanted to say and with style.

• The answer here is simple, you can possibly do everything in the world to impress her (showering her with attention, gifts, money, love, care...etc) but if she does not love you these things won't mean a thing to her. This is love you are talking about, a person's heart, it functions differently than anything else. I am guessing your actual question was this "If you love a girl and she does not love you, how can you get her attention so she can love you in the end?"

• No doubt you all gathered that this a very touchy topic and a difficult one! I think girls usually tend to like men with charisma, definitely a sense of humour, someone they can trust, someone they know will be there when they need them. It is quite hard to determine what mix of these factors (and others not mentioned) a particular girl likes. Often, it is important and 'useful' to be ones self and not to overdo anything. Even if you flatter her with what you think she likes so much so it is not in your personality - it is a recipie for disaster. Never 'try' to impress her, let your personality (the unmodified version!) impress her - if it doesn't, this match will rarely work. Bottom line - instincts answer the question quicker than your mind can deciper. follow the instincts and things will turn out well. Never pretend and try to be as faithful as you can be to your emotions and that I think is the best!

• I like a girl at the moment but i dont thing she feels the same way about me. Im reading all of your answers and now im posting my own, there is no answer on how to make a girl fall in love with you, all you can possibly do is be yourself and let her see the true you. if you pretend to be nice, pretend to be exiting, pretend to be interesting, then one day you wont be able to pretend anymore then she will see the true you and walk away and your heart will be broken and she will forget about you, the best and really only thing you can do is be yourself and if you do like her let her know, dont pretend, dont fake it, dont try it, do it be yourself and let her see the true you and if she still isnt interested then she is not the girl for you and move on. There are some things we cant fake or pretend there are somethings where we have no power over and this is one of them, all we can do is be ourselves and hope for the best. just dont pretend because you will end up hurting you and the girl you love.

• Hey lads, i was once in your shoes. I got to know one girl but our friendship soon turned into best-friends and before long i started to love her. Most people dont know what love is but for me this was different because all i wanted to do is be with her. I waited two years before telling her everything about how i felt towards her maybe i was abit lucky but soon after i had told her everything we finally got things sorted out and now we are together and we are taking each day as it comes. This is to prove that good things happen to good people and if you wait then one day it will happen to you and once it does you will be writing the same thing on this website as i have.

• This is a complicated question, but from my experience the best thing to do here, would be first to develop a friendship with her, then, if you still love her, just walk up to her when she is standing still, when she looks at you, put your hands on her shoulders, gaze deep into her eyes, then just tell her you love her, if she turns and walks away, dont worry, she either doesnt know what to say or how to react, or at least she knows how you feel, if she likes or loves you back, she will turn your hands on her shoulders into a hug, no backing out now, she knows how you feel. this worked for me, hopefully it will work for you! cheers

• I don't know how to express myself as eloquently as some people on here but i will try my best. I know my girl from college and immediately found her attractive. It turns out we were abelto talk very easily and we both amused each other. Unfortunately, she liked another guy and i tried my best to get them together (If she's gonna be happy, let her be happy) I got mixed signals from her and eventually told her how i felt. I did indeed think at the time, that the person she liked was me. However, i was wrong and i didn't get a good answer. Luckily, i brought some cards to play and we began talking again. If you want to continue being friends, might aswell not make it awkward. Afterwards though she began to like me. She ended up rejecting the other guy and picking me. Long story short, make sure you're there. I've made the mistake of being too possesive at times but i'm working on that. A relationship doesn't flourish because of what you have, it's how easily you can work on yourself to make yourselves right for each other. IF your'e willing to make the effort then that person is probably right for you. OOo one last thing, it's been a month since we started, i haven't told her anything about love ^_^ and it seems to be working fine. When you say it, make it count; i know i will!
  
  
• I am just passing from such situation. Guys, normally every girl never like a boy who really like her. Also you never know what they feel about you and how they will react. So at the first chance it is very necessary you clear your feelings. Then it is depend on the girl that you want still want her as a friend or not. By making your point clear you will get exact idea about her and that will stop you to get emotionally involve if she do not like you. Because every friendship on timespan converts in emotional attachment whether it is two way or one way. "Woman and weather are always unpredictable." So never get emotional with any woman. Just Chill and enjoy the life.
  

• Okay i need some help. I already know how to get a girl to notice me, but my situation is that i am 16 and she is 19. we are on about the same level though, so she does not have more experience than me, but i need to know how i should get her to not even care about the age difference.
  
  
  • I need help with this girl I like? This is from Clark1? Here is my question? I really like this girl that I have a crush on for 2 1/2 years. I know for a fact she really like me, but only as a friend. I really want to impress her, so I can become her boyfriend. Every time I tried to impress her, it always fail, and we are only still friends. I really need her to be my girlfriend, because I really care about her, and I never felt that about any girl that I ever met in my entire life. How can I make her to be my girlfriend.
    

I am the man that really care about girl and give her everythng.love not always be like we want even went we think that we give all 110% already.i just lose someone that i like for almost 3 years , i really think that she is the one for me but everythng suddenly go wrong, i just dont understand why.all i can think is we love each other but i am for 110% but she only 80% that why we broke.now i just dont know if i should get her back or find someone else.

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  first of all let me warn you that love hurts.it really does.I can imagine how pissed off some of you will be by reading my comment but the truth is bitter.when youre not in love most of the things you do in your life is to find a mate because thats the will of nature which forces you to find a mate. we call it the will to live.the nature wants to live on and doesnt care about you. the only thing she wants from you is finding a mate to copulate and create as many creatures like yourself as you can. when your not in love thats when you are very creative and happy .but as soon as you fall in love your brain gets sick and wont be able to think about anything except for your mate.thats when youre mostly dead, mostly.but you think its sweet.maybe thats really sweet but before falling in love try your best to be exactly what you are if you want your love for life.if you pretend to be someone else after having a couple of sexual activities your love slowly starts to fade and finally it'll be vanished.because sex is something that male creatures want and caregiver is something that female creatures want.(mammals at least)

Ha. I'm the notorious nice guy. I've always been the "good/best friend" to so many girls. Always listened, consoled, advised when their boyfriends cheat on them and treat them like trash. But I've always been just that, a friend. Recently I've fallen madly in love with my best female friend. I've taken notice that anyone that was nice to her, she lost interest in quickly. There was this one guy that everyone agreed is a total jerk, but she was very interested in him and defended him. That angered and frustrated me. I started treating her like crap, then she started showing a lot of interest in me. But of course being a jerk is not my natural state of mind, so I started being nice to her again... and it seems that I've lost her. I give good advice. I see things and solve with logic. It seems this time love has hit me... and I can't let go. Logic has failed me. I still want her more than anything... oh well... power up and try to push through life, or you'll sink in sorrow. I'm pretty funny, one of the funnier people I know. I'm physcially superior to this guy she likes. I have a B.A. I'm nicer. If I could give myself advice I would tell myself there are other fish in the sea and to move on. But I think of her all moments of the day. I can't help it. Logic fails big time. The only logic I see and have seen from past situations:
Nice guys finish last.
I could totally destroy this jerk, but I'm not going too. Why? She asked me not too. Somebody shoot me... lol.

Its all rubbish.. the truth is that one sided love is actually called lust, and if a girl doesnt like the way u look then u have no sexual chemistry, rather chemistry, which is friendship, not love. I have spent the past year desperately caught up with someone amazing. It is slightly different because I got quite far, we were together behind their partenrs back.. which was actually a lot of fun, anyway this person went to live in another country to follow their boyfriend over. That hit me hard, made me realise that she preferred him, so i told myself all sorts, she went to live somewhere she had better prospects, he had moved sumwhere that she wanted to live, etc etc... which was kinda true, I live in a holiday place in southrn europe and its hard to live and work here, I do ok.
The point is that if they dont love u, no matter what you do, it will never be enough, and it will always feel your fault. People play depressing music, etc etc to get over it... I think the key is to not be a mug. Save your pride before the relationship. If they dont show you deep love, the chances are its fake. Woman control mens emotions with too much ease, and we feel its the other way around. I spent a lot of money on showering her with gifts, including flights, hotels, jewlery etc. When she broke up with him I was the first one to be called... i thought that this girl was so sweet, but they use you, abuse you and lie to you... just take my word for it, you will feel awful, but give up on it, its the one thing that hard work cant change, you just hurt longer. Its nice to think that if you treat her mean youll keep her mean, no, if she fancies you, youll get laid, if she doesnt youll buy her gifts and shell pretend to have the intention on one day getting with u. Bail before its too late, stop mugging yourselves off, I guarantee you will feel the same again, its not real, its chemicals in your brain that tell you how to feel, after time these emotions are diluted and new ones come in their place. My girl moved back, and was able to put all the blame for everything on me. Realtionships that need effort do not work. Sad but true.

I think there is something wrong when people say nice guys finish last.. something terribly wrong.. I don't feel there is going to be any good from this. I say just continue being nice and dont change your ways in time maybe a nice girl may find you instead ! ;) Continue to be nice to people, thats all I can say.

There have been some thoughtful answers here on how a guy can approach a girl. In your consideration, you should always work out two things before you jump ahead: The first is to be able to love yourself when you are single and the second is to love the other person without thinking about yourself. Without these two principles set in your own 'resolve', you are walking towards a bus. If you are lucky, the bus might turn at the right time and spare your life. However, if you really want the bus to stop for you and take you out for a ride, you need to consider everything this bus needs, wants, and where it is going. In short, being the notorious nice guy is not a disadvantage as long as you don't play the sacrificial speed bump on the road, you just need to be there for her. If she has no feeling for you like in my case, receiving that "what i was falling for was not u, but rather what u doing for me, and how u were treating me, and that just cannot and wont do", after I had tried everything with the purest intentions with respect to her securities, then it is clear where the result lies. Of course, there is a degree of suffering involved, and I too, am in its earlier stages as it happened to me 24 hours ago, but it is only a reflection of your own selfishness if you think about it. The more you feel pain, the more you are attached to her you would think...correct? If you take into perspective of your attachment to her, you realize that your so-called 'love for her' has done nothing in outcome but dig a hole in your relationship with her, be it friendship or other. I am not saying that it is wrong to be strongly attached, but if you value your friendship, then do exactly that in your recovery. It may begin painful since you are trying to forget somebody dear to you, re-arranging your attachment strings and delusions, but because you believe, you will value what you have bonded, as I am trying to do right this moment. To answer your question "You love a girl that doesn't love you back and how to go about it", I think it is best to take a walk and walk with longer strides. If you decide to keep the friendship, process how you are going to be there for her despite your losses, and whether as a friend or something more. It is not 'nice' to expect a return in your view, and no true friend would want the other to be sacrificial in hers. In simple words, be there for her and not for yourself. I don't doubt possibilities of love being reciprocated, but if you hope that she will 'turn to you' because of this (if you are landing an expectation on her), wake up now and re-read the whole discussion again. I hope my words reach out to those who are in the same situation as I am. All the best with your heart and be strong. Hugz.

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Don't waste your time and save yourself more heartache than you've already had. If someone doesn't love you and you love them the hardest and best thing to do is to move on - you are going to have to do it anyway why not do it as quickly as possible?

answer mack tools: to get them to love u.

stop being a sucker, stop paying bills, stop giving money for sex stop calling all the dam time stop telling her how much u love her stop thinking about her all day you are just being macked. and they love it.

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