How do you get wife into threesome?

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You don't. If you really need it and you're married, just do it without her. Not that cheating is any better, but in most cases, it's a deal breaker. Someone always seems to get hurt. Imagine if your wife asked you for the same with another guy. So this good looking hung stud comes over and makes her squeal like nothing you've ever heard. Will you ever get that picture out of your head?
You're better off keeping it as a fantasy.

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When you marry someone it's to share your life with her and she shares her life with you and marriage is not a mockery of adding a third person into the mix. If you feel the need for this then you were never mature enough to get married in the first place! You should have done her a favor and stayed single. I'm against threesomes and of course, that my opinions and I don't need a rock to fall on my head to realize that some people do feel the need for this either out of perversion or to spice up their so-called dull marriage, but hey, there are other ways to spice your love life up and maintain a stronger marriage and it's called communication and working at the marriage! I've been married for 35 years and yes, there were dull spots in our marriage, but we managed to spice up our relationship without introducing a threesome.

It's a slap in the face to even ask this of your wife and you know it or you wouldn't be on this board. Most women aren't into sharing! I suggest you communicate your sexual needs to your wife and keep the threesome part out of it. If you can't handle this then do her a favor and split up.

If my husband put a compromise to me such as a threesome he'd be wearing his lower lip over his head and it's got nothing to do with age ... I would have nailed his hide even when we were in our twenties.

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To the above poster marriage means different things to different people. To some people sharing your life together doesn't need to exclude extramarital sexual relations, and to some it does. Some couples might feel uneasy about threesomes. Others might have no problem with it. Some couples are into swinging and swap partners and have threesomes regularly. Nothing wrong with it. It's just a personal preference. My advice is to talk to your spouse about it. If it works for you great. If not that's fine, too. Really though it's probably better to talk about these things before marriage. If you don't know your spouse enough to know whether she'd be interested in a threesome maybe you should've gotten to know her a little more before getting married. But if she agrees and it all works out then great. Different strokes for different folks.

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My question to the above poster is 'why be bother getting married in a church and taking those vows?' If one doesn't believe in the vows and want to go through life together without a threesome then they should have lived together and had a swinging good time. Yes, people do have a choice regarding their sexual preferences, but once you take those vows ... out goes those ideas (or at least they should.)

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And to the above poster I ask "what if you're not religious or were married in a courthouse?". I don't understand why it matters.
Marriages are social contracts, not religious pacts. This is why you can get married in a courthouse as well as a church. In fact, if it were only religious then you could just run off to a church and get married whenever, without having to get a government license.

The point is that everyone is different and so are all marriages. However, I would suggest that you and your partner should have discussed this before you got married.

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I am assuming this person got married in a church and if by a Justice of the Peace there is a bond. I have nothing against a person's private sexual preferences, but married before God, or taking a vow to each other then I suggest these people that did so dig out those vows (we all get a copy) and read it again. If people are living together and believe that a marriage license is simply a piece of paper go for it, but, if you got married in a church with that thought in your head then you should follow the belief system. Simple ... you don't believe in a religious sect, so don't take the vows and do as you please.

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