How do you get your boyfriend to trust you again after you kissed another guy three years ago when you were going through a really bad time and you have been together a total of four years now?

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One idea would be to give him a jolt to his system. Conforont him and say its been far too long for him to be holding this against you and you want it to stop or you'll leave. He'll either agree to move on or he'll say no and risk you leaving. If he does take option 2 and is willing to risk you leaving him is he really worth staying with in the first place?

AnswerI don't think he would have stayed with you so long if he didn't trust you, if you don't have trust then you don't have a relationship. Maybe he just holds onto things, so if you guys get in a fight he can use it against you. You could get a ring (doesn't matter if it is cheap or expensive) but wear it on your ring finger, and let him know that you are telling the whole world you are in love and in a commited relationship. AnswerThis is not something that you can do any thing about at this point. It sounds like a trust issue for him and should be over it by now. I would sit down with him one more time and tell him that you can not and will not tolerate this immature behavior, you said you were sorry, it hasn't happened again and you will not do it again, you are committed to him and for the health of the relationship, he needs to move on because it is stressing you out and straining the relationship.I also would consider that maybe he is feeling guilty and taking it out on you to justify some-thing he may be doing. Ask him that too...Some people feel that if they do the same thing to you that that is how they get back at you...I wouldn't waste that much more time on this because 4 years is a long time to have someone hang on to a kiss.