How do you help your son who is being emotionally abused by his wife?

Answer 1

If you just do not like how your ex-husband talks to your son, that might not be a form of abuse that would be legally recognized. It may just be a matter of some difference in philosophical opinion between you and your husband. Perhaps (for all I know) you are a Republican and he is a Democrat, and you interpret this as mental abuse. However, if your ex-husband is truly abusing your son, you should be able to obtain a restraining order from a court, that will legally prohibit him from talking to your son or even getting close to him. Failing that, you can still talk to your son yourself, and help him to understand what is going on. There are not always easy solutions to these kinds of situations and you may just have to do the hard work of preparing your son to deal with mentally abusive people - and we all meet such people in the course of our lives.

Answer 2

• No matter how old your daughter or son is you still have the right to comment the emotional abuse they are putting on their children. Let your adult child know it is wrong and don't worry about whether she/he likes to hear what you have to say. If you feel your grandchildren are so emotionally abused that they are retreating into their own little world; seem too quiet or depressed; fearful of one or both parents or they are doing poorly in school then do not hesitate to report them to Child Aid in the U.S. or Child Welfare in Canada (depending on where you live.) It is every adults duty to protect children and if one does not do so then they are an enabler and as guilty as the parent or parents of those children. Emotional Abuse is: always yelling at the children no matter what they do; calling them names or swearing at them; telling them they are stupid or good for nothing or, the parent wishes they were never born. If the parent or parents are stressed out and only on occasion lose their temper verbally that is not truly abuse, but if it is constant it is. If you are worried that the child protection services will put your grandchildren in foster care and if you feel you can look after your grandchildren until their parents get psychological help to deal with their children then go to court and ask for custody of your grandchildren. If you cannot raise them for awhile then perhaps another relative in the family can.

Answer 3

In Canada we have "Big Brothers" and these are men that give their time to young boys that have no fathers, absent fathers or abusive fathers. Boys need a male figure-head as I am sure you are aware of. His father is abusive so keep him away from your son. Explain to your son that "dad is sick and until he wants help he won't get well." NEVER knock down your son's father even if the father deserves it. Always remember that you are his mom to him and "dad is dad" no matter how abusive he may be. You'll lose if you down his father because young kids just don't see the bad side of some parents or other people and have to experience it or grow older to understand it. Get him into some sort of sports with a good coach (someone to look up too.) Try to attend as many games as you can. He needs interaction with males and a role-model to look up too (that could be the coach.) The other route you could go (you didn't say how old your son is) but if he's 6 plus, then you can give him some chores around the house (act like the wounded sparrow once in awhile) and let your son realize you count on him too. Young men are simply part boy/part man and it can be a frustrating time for them.

Answer 4

It will take counseling for both of you and it's the only way as they are strictly the professionals and know how to handle children. With this help there is no reason he shouldn't grow up to be a healthy and well-adjusted young man. I volunteer at the Absued Women's Center and they also have children and it's wonderful the programs they have for both the abused wives and their children. Give them a chance!

Answer 5

Speak to him! Speak to her! Comunication is a good source, or use concilling. There are loads of way's you can solve this, like if he seperates from her for a while or goes to a men's hostel.

Answer 6

they can help by geting them help