How do you know if you are a commitment-phobe?

Answer

Picture the girl or guy of your dreams. They possess everything you desire in a mate. If you want someone with a good job who makes money and is independent, likes the outdoors, is fun to be with, attractive and likeable, or whatever attributes you care for, that is this person.

Now picture marrying this person, or having a long term relationship leading to marriage. Imagine what you'd do together. Not exactly to the letter, but in the ballpark. You know, eating dinner with this person, going to the show, the ballgame maybe, or just sitting quietly watching TV. How do you feel now? Like it would be a mistake?

Sometimes it all boils down to are you able to spend time alone with this person without feeling cornered. If you are afraid still that you won't be able to commit, but still feel you want to, or need to, ask yourself if you are being unrealistic about your expectations for a spouse, or that special someone. A therapist might help you narrow your field of vision and might even find some reason that you, yourself, feel inadequate about having a partner.

Worst of all, don't get married to prove anything. You might just be more independent than you know.

Lastly, date around, and maybe you'll see imperfections in others that will make you cut your losses and find a rationale, or a middle ground for yourself.

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