How does a preteen boy know if he is gay?

Answer 1

Hello :)

If you're preteen, chances are, you'll be attracted to the same sex for awhile until you hit puberty. Sometimes you start getting an interest in girls, sometimes he goes for the guys. In my case, I went for the guys :P.

Boys are sometimes attracted to other boys because they feel more secure around boys rather than girls. It is normal to feel aroused upon seeing other naked boys when you are young, as it is something unusual to you.

It isn't until later that they might realize that they actually, in fact, are attracted to girls.

Answer 2

A preteen boy might start to notice feelings of attraction towards other boys, find himself interested in seeking out information about being gay, or feel different in a way that resonates with the experiences of gay people. It's important for him to explore these feelings at his own pace and talk to someone he trusts for support and guidance.

Answer 3

The only way to tell if anyone is gay regardless of their age is to ask them. However, in the case of a ten year-old, asking about their sexual preferences might not be productive. While some children start having vague feelings of sexual attraction at this age, they do not understand them and could not intelligently discuss them.

You may suspect that your child is gay because he does not conform to gender norms; however, behaving girlishly is not indicative of being homosexual. There are many boys who are effeminate as children who become masculine in their teenage years, or who remain effeminate into adulthood, but are still heterosexual. There are also many homosexuals who conform to male gender norms perfectly both as small children and as adults.

In some cases, a parent might suspect that a child this young is gay because they have witnessed, heard about, or suspect the child has engaged in sexual behavior with other boys or has used same-sex pornography. If this is the case, please take your child to see a therapist. This may be something as normal and harmless as sexual experimentation, but your child might be acting out sexually due to abuse.

What is most important is that you do not accuse them of being gay. It is not something that can be controlled and it is not something that a 10-year-old should be worrying about.

Answer 4

When a gay or lesbian person is an adult, we can usually think back and say, "Yeah, I was gay (or lesbian) when I was 10." But when you are 10, it's really too early to tell. Children at that age (and well into puberty) usually don't really know enough about sex to be sure. It's like asking a 10-year-old "are you going to be a world-renowned architect?"

Answer 5

I'm one and I already know what my sexuality is and it's lesbian I wear a black beanie and boy clothes and I'm a girl