How do you know if your father is a narcissist?

Answer 1

If you were raised by a narcissistic parent, then you've been taught that the narcissist is always right and you're the one who's wrong. A lifetime of such mistreatment typically instills lack of confidence in your own judgment, along with habitual shame at never getting it right or being good enough to deserve the air that you breathe. The children of narcissists may not have realized that the quirks and oddities of their impossible-to-please parents are not in any way unique or special but are in fact the symptoms of a personality disorder. What is Narcissism? A pattern of traits and behaviors which signify infatuation and obsession with one's self to the exclusion of all others and the egotistic and ruthless pursuit of one's gratification, dominance and ambition. Most narcissists (75%) are men. People with narcissistic tendencies have errors in thinking which prevents them from seeing things how they are from both sides of the picture. Not wanting to feel bad inside, they build defenses such as denial, repression and a strong need to be right. When the person has severe traits, they can feel an increase in self-esteem when they get what they want and feel no remorse or justify their using others. John Masterson called this rigid type of thinking a "Swiss Cheese Brain" with holes in the brain and mind where good common sense and conscience should be. Some even get a sense of feeling superior when they get their way or make others feel bad. This is the dynamic underlying bullying. When hurting others becomes a hook into feeling self-satisfaction, the Narcissism takes an ugly turn. There is a cost to this false sense of self-esteem. People who abuse and bully others end up being lonely because others do not want to be around them. People with narcissistic behavior cannot handle criticism in any way and feel that they are being made wrong. . They are supersensitive to criticism and either attack the other person or they leave the scene. This blaming the person who gives criticism helps the person with narcissistic defenses avoid feeling guilt, shame and depression but it also keeps them from taking responsibility for learning from their mistakes and ultimately from growing up. They can pout and give the silent treatment or hold grudges. This combination of these defenses that distort reality often set them up for failure in partnerships. When the narcissistic traits are too severe and causes havoc in the lives of others, there is a disorder. Narcissistic Personality Disorder happens when a person's outlook is so distorted to the extent that they do not see reality as it is and cannot see the needs of other people. These people are the takers of the world leaving pain and destruction in their wake. If their behavior is left unchecked, they become con artists, manipulators, sociopaths and dictators. Without empathy for others, people with narcissistic personality disorders can irrationally justify and rationalize their hurtful and unlawful behaviors and may become sexual predators. Family members who have sex with children always have some element of narcissism seeing others as objects that are available for their own sexual satisfaction. High intelligence coupled with a lack of empathy and remorse for hurting others is a dangerous combination for family members. With extreme narcissistic behaviors, the diagnosis may be a sociopath personality disorder. Characteristics of Narcissistic Parents * Turns every conversation to him or herself. * Expects you to meet his or her emotional needs * Ignores the impact of his negative comments on you * Constantly criticizes or berates you and knows what is best for you * Focus on blaming rather than taking responsibility for his own behavior * Expect you to jump at his every need * Is overly involved with his own hobbies, interests or addictions ignoring your needs * Has high need for attention: * Brags, sulks, complains, inappropriately teases, is flamboyant, loud and boisterous * Is closed minded about own mistakes. Can't handle criticism and gets angry to shut it off * Becomes angry when his needs are not met and tantrums or intimidates * Has an attitude of "Anything you can do, I can do better" * Engages in one-upmanship to seem important * Acts in a seductive manner or is overly charming * Is vain and fishes for compliments. Expects you to admire him * Isn't satisfied unless he has the "biggest" or "best" * Seeks status. Spends money to impress others * Forgets what you have done for them yet keeps reminding you that you owe them today * Neglects the family to impress others. Does it all: Is a super person to gain admiration * Threatens to abandon you if you don't go along with what he wants * Does not obey the law-sees himself above the law * Does not expect to be penalized for failure to follow directions or conform to guidelines * Ignores your feelings and calls you overly sensitive or touchy if you express feelings * Tells you how you should feel or not feel * Cannot listen to you and cannot allow your opinions * Is more interested in his own concerns and interests than yours * Is unable to see things from any point of view other than his own * Wants to control what you do and say-tries to micromanage you * Attempts to make you feel stupid, helpless and inept when you do things on your own * Has poor insight and can not see the impact his selfish behavior has on you * Has shallow emotions and interests * Exploits others with lies and manipulations. * Uses emotional blackmail to get what he wants * May engage in physical or sexual abuse of children

Answer 2

usually voice will go high say something either really mean or overly nice will make a weird face after words