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How do you know when it's time to leave a partner with Borderline Personality Disorder? |
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It's time to leave when you realize that the person cannot get better with your help and love. It's time to leave when you realize that the relationship has developed into an "enabling" situation...meaning that you give your all and more to help the person you love and nothing has changed. It's time to leave when they don't show love and concern for you....meaning that they have no care for your state of mind or what they are putting you or their loved ones through. It's time to leave if they say inconsiderate, mean things and don't hear themselves hurting you...it's time to leave if they scream and yell at you...act as if you aren't important...look at other people with sexual interest and state it, put their hands on you in anger. But mostly it is time to leave if you know deep down in your heart that you have done everything you can to show that person how much you love them, and that love is not returning to you. If you do not feel love emanating from them...it is time to leave.
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The only way you can know for sure is if this person has been professionally diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder and it's not "arm chair psychology." If they are going for help and you love them enough to help them through then there are good websites to go too to research exactly what this disease of the brain can do to the person and how to cope with your partner during this time. There are some good medications out there to help your partner. If your partner refuses help, try talking to them and listen rather than talk. If they refuse to talk or seek help then you have no option but to move on. It is difficult to live with a BPO person if they refuse professional help or your help. On the other hand, if you're living together or married and you love them try hanging on a bit longer and make use of that time for yourself. If you study BPO and see light at the end of the tunnel give it your best shot. There is no shame in admitting "enough is enough" but instead of limping off into the sunset tell your partner why you have to leave. Hopefully this will make them get some professional help.
Good luck Marcy
First answer by Marcy. Last edit by Mbme. Contributor trust: 91 [recommend contributor]. Question popularity: 29 [recommend question]
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