How do you let go of a marriage when one person will not grow up and you can't live with or without this person?

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I will share my experience and observations. I have seen the immature partner in such relationships undergo tremendous growth as a result of the breakup of the marriage. It doesn't always work that way, but if the ability to become mature is in the person it will usually come out when needed. Either way you win because if the person does respond positively, you still have a valued, loved, and loving friend (once they get over the loss) for life even though that person is no longer your mate. If they never grow up, you have distanced yourself from the harm that they can inflict upon your life and you can choose the distance you want to put between you and them. Good luck.

IF that person is immature and refuses to grow up, you know in your heart that person is more aggrivations than good times. The problem is that you are just USE to that person being there and possibly doing for you. That's all it is. You were just use to that person.

Let the immature person grow up. Do you really want some immature baby that you have to raise? Don't you already have children? Do you need another?

I have been in this situation and can attest to the fact that once you have let go of the person and started to live life on your own terms you will not regret moving on. It's unfortunate because you loved this person at one time for the very characteristics that you have since outgrown.

People grow in different directions, often without realizing. When the gap is to big to cross than you need to cut your losses.

I think that immaturity among males is extremely common! :-P However, I also think immaturity can go in waves. If you've tried to talk it through and have expressed how you feel as much as possible, try to seek some sort of counseling or something so maybe he'll get it through his head that he needs to change some of his behavior. Then maybe you guys can rebuild. I'm always all about the idea of rebuilding, but only after you have both clearly identified what needs to happen. Make sense?