How do you overcome frustration caused by the wife?

Answer 1

If you treat your wife well, you will have a happy life. But, if you don't treat her well, you will wish you were born without ears!

So, make her happy and she makes you less frustrated.

The above is the absolute best advice and best way, but there is also the SSSS method that works on husbands, so it likely could also work with frustration from the other direction:

• Shut up
• Smile
• Separate
• Smile

Suddenly and temporarily: Stop the dialogue; Shut up. Smile; it is hard but I've not had my face crack so far. Put some physical distance between you; Separate. Return only when you can comfortably keep the Smile on your face (your times may vary).

There is some method in this madness, it has been shown in scientific studies that the simple physical act of smiling can improve your mood. If you look happy using those smile muscles in your face, you actually will start feeling happy (something to do with the activation of specific muscle sets/nerves and all). When you feel happy, and look happy, that will spill over and be mirrored by those around you whether they want to or not, they usually can't help it. Their putting smiles on their faces will actually trigger good feelings in them (and, although I wasn't sure at first, my hubby's face doesn't crack either.)

It has been proven that people tend to seek happiness and, given the slightest push, happiness can even be caught and spread like a virus. There are therapeutic laughing sessions held commonly (started in India, I believe) around the US now where people end up laughing hysterically and carry a better mood for the rest of the day as a result.

Laughing is proven to be good for the immune system and other body functions. You can have a group crying in laughter in no time. All it takes is one person to say "Ha", the next "Ha ha", then "Ha Ha Ha" around the group and it develops and spreads. Humans tend to be unable to feel unhappy when laughing, even when faking a laugh...and give it a little time and it becomes uncontrollable and extremely good for your health...and relationships.

Another method is to look at how many things you do that are frustrating to her instead of thinking of yourself and your own frustrations!

Try taking ten deep breaths and with each breath, think of one thing she does for you that she does, not because she hasto, but because she loves you.