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(Note: The American Proctologic Society is well familiar with the variety of damages and diseases that can come from anal sex, protected or unprotected. Just as one should consult a doctor before beginning a new exercise program, one should consult a proctologist to get their opinion as to your anus having things - including penises - inserted into it.)
First and foremost, the only right way to do it is with two consenting partners. Anal sex, just like any form of sex, should never be pushed on a partner. If, after open discussion, both partners agree that they want to try this, proceed carefully.
Contrary to some beliefs, anal sex can be enjoyable to both the receiving and giving partner.
Why is it enjoyable? On a physical level, the anus is filled with nerve endings, making it a highly sensitive area. It is also, generally speaking, a rather "tight fit" as compared to other, more conventional orifices. On a psychological level, there is simply too much variation in humans to list why we want to do. It could be dominance/submission, the trust required, or simply experimenting in new ways.
First, it is best for the "receiver" to have gone to the bathroom beforehand. Somewhere in the vicinity of a few hours is best. Fecal matter is not stored in the rectum (approximately the first 1ft of "tubing" from the anus upwards), however minor amounts of it can be lodged in this area. If you are unwilling to risk any hint of fecal matter a pre-sex enema is the only option.
I'd suggest engaging in non-penetrating anal play at first. Work this into your normal foreplay. Simply caressing the anus with a finger or tongue works best. It is important to proceed with caution at all times, as your partner may become uncomfortable, or simply change their mind. Assuming all goes well, you can move from simple touching to minor penetration. Before this is done it is absolutely imperative that you use some form of lubrication. The anus, unlike the vagina, does not generally secrete a sufficient amount of lubricant for sex. When picking an anal lubricant, I recommend avoiding anything that advertises itself as "heating" or "warming" oil/lube. Again, the anal cavity is highly sensitive and "warming" liquids may not be so comfortable.
Once you have applied the lubricant, GO SLOW! Gently, and slowly insert something small, like a finger. Always be watching your partner for feedback. If they are not comfortable stop immediately. Even if all is going well, go slowly. As your partner adjusts to the sensation they will relax. You may be able to proceed with additional fingers, or even on to penile penetration. However, slow and steady wins the race.
When receiving anal sex, especially at first, it is normal to have the sensation that you're about to "go #2." The nerves in this area send that signal when they are triggered. This feeling will usually subside after a short period.
Also, its worth mentioning that there are inherent risks with anal play. First, it is the anus, and as I mentioned earlier, some degree of fecal matter is unavoidable. Follow my suggestions above to reduce this risk. When having anal sex, you should never transfer your toy/penis from the anus to the vagina/mouth. While popular in pornography, it is actually a prime way to expose your partner to bladder infections at best, e.coli infections etc. It is also highly advisable to wear a condom, as you may expose yourself to a bladder infection if you do not. Pregnancy is a non-issue with anal sex, however risks for STD's can be even higher than with vaginal intercourse. Simply put, safe sex is a must for anal sex for the benefit of both partners.
Carefully.
You should always make sure that you have A LOT of lube because that is very important. I would recommend ASTROGLIDE as the best for anal. The person on the receiving end is th eone who should be in control. Remember that the first time will be very painful for them, just like if they are a woman, vaginal sex was painful the first time around. Go slow and listen to what the person says. I would push it in very gently for a couple seconds and then wait. Then pull out and push it back in a little further and wait. It is really all about good communication.
Additional Input:
For many people, anal sex is the ultimate taboo. In the 1990's, anal sex has been given the bad rap because HIV, the virus that causes AIDS, is most easily transmitted by anal intercourse.
But some people love anal sex. Others hate it. Others haven't tried it yet and are curious. And many people are attracted to it precisely because it's so taboo and mysterious.
What is analingus?
One other part of the body that some people enjoy licking, or having licked, is the anus. The anus has half the nerve endings in the pelvic region and many people find touching it to be sexually arousing.
The anus and rectum carry many diseases that live quite benignly in your lower digestive tract, but which can be harmful in your mouth or stomach. Performing analingus is a very risky behavior for a variety of bacterial infections. Refer to the section on safer sex techniques for ways to protect yourself if you or your partner enjoys this activity.
Does anal sex hurt?
Anal sex should not hurt. If it hurts, you're doing it wrong. With enough lubricant and enough patience, it's entirely possible to enjoy anal sex as a safe and fulfilling part of your sex life. However, some people may never like it, and if your lover is one of those people, respect their limits. Don't force the idea upon them.
Can anal sex actually give pleasure?
The pleasure of anal sex is derived from many things. Doing something "nasty" appeals to many people, especially about sex. Doing something different to spice up a sex life that has become something of a bore can be part of it. And the physical sensations available during anal sex are uniquely different from anything else. The rectum is lined with nerve endings, some of which signal the brain to 'reward' you with good feelings when stimulated. For men, the prostate gland can be a source of powerful pleasure. And for a thrusting penis, the ring of the anus can be a new and strong sensation to enjoy.
What do I need to have anal sex?
The most important pieces of advice anyone can give on anal sex are: lubricants, condoms, and patience. The most commonly available lubricant is KY-Jelly, a greaseless, odorless substance available at most drug stores. Better lubricants include Astroglide, ID, Wet, or ForePlay, some of which are available at better drug stores, and most of which are available in some form at adult toy stores.
Do not buy anything that is oil-based. Make sure the lubricant you buy is rated "condom compatible." Nothing else will do. Oil-based lubricants such as Vaseline or baby oil will destroy a condom long before you're done having sex. And many oil-based sub-stances will coat the lining of the rectum, providing a haven for many potential infections.
Do I have to use a condom?
Even if you're sure that both you and your partner are disease- free, you should still use a condom. The rectum is home to lots of infectious bacteria that can cause burning and urethritis of the penis. It will also help you clean up afterward.
I'm worried that anal sex will be messy.
Anal sex should not be messy. Most first-timers fear that it will be, but most people can tell when they have to go. A condom will help with cleanup, of course, and if you're really concerned, a commercial enema, like Fleet, will help beforehand.
How do we prepare for anal sex?
Patience is the third and final thing you need to make anal sex possible. Initial penetration is always the most difficult part of anal sex -- the anus is a tight ring of flesh at the opening of the rectum designed to control the elimination of bodily waste. It is partially under voluntary control, and partially reflexive to stimulation. Your partner has to relax, and you have to go slow to coax it into opening enough to receive your penis.
Start with a well-lubricated finger or a slim (smaller than your penis) dildo. The dildo is more realistic, but your fingers can flex and feel what they're doing inside her ass. Slide one finger in slowly, letting her adjust to it. Take your finger all the way out, then push it back in again. Give her anus time to get used to this kind of activity. Then slide a second finger in. Consider how big your penis is and realize that two fingers is probably enough.
What position should we use for anal sex?
For actual intercourse, picking a position can be important. Many women want to be on top, to regulate how fast penetration occurs. Other like to lie on their stomachs, or crouch doggy-style, or to be penetrated while lying on their sides. Choose what's best before you start.
As always, control yourself. Take your time and use lots of lubricant. People who like anal sex say that "too much lube is almost enough." Listen to her -- if she tells you it starts to hurt, back off.
Eventually, a time will come during your lovemaking where her anus will relax enough to allow the head of your cock to 'pop' into her. If she is completely relaxed, that pop should feel completely painless. Now just because you're inside her is no reason to start pounding away like mad. Let her body adjust. Take your time. Eventually you will both be ready for more.
Can I get pregnant from anal sex?
It is not technically possible to get pregnant from anal sex; there is no way for semen to get from the rectal tract to the vaginal tract.
However, anal sex is still not a very good method of birth control. Semen leaking from the anus after intercourse may drip across the perineum (the short stretch of skin separating vulva and anus) and cause what is known as a 'splash' conception. The failure rate for this is surprisingly high! 8% of couples of who use anal sex as a method of birth control have babies each year.
What if I don't like it?
You may find that anal sex just isn't for you. That's fine. Nothing says that you have to indulge in something that doesn't make you feel good.
If you mean how you can perform anal sex all you have to do is to insert your erect penis in her butt/anus and go "in and out" that's all!
P.S. and don't forget to use a condom!
Anal Sex - Men or Women
Be gentle, use a condom with lots of lube, lay in the fetal position and let him/her control the penetration. For some men or women, anal can be a great experience, but you need to go at their pace.Willingly.First and foremost, the only right way to do it is with two consenting partners. Anal sex, just like any form of sex, should never be pushed on a partner. If, after open discussion, both partners agree that they want to try this, proceed carefully.
Contrary to some beliefs, anal sex can be enjoyable to both the receiving and giving partner.
Why is it enjoyable? On a physical level, the anus is filled with nerve endings, making it a highly sensitive area. It is also, generally speaking, a rather "tight fit" as compared to other, more conventional orifices. On a psychological level, there is simply too much variation in humans to list why we want to do. It could be dominance/submission, the trust required, or simply experimenting in new ways.
First, it is best for the "receiver" to have gone to the bathroom beforehand. Somewhere in the vicinity of a few hours is best. Fecal matter is not stored in the rectum (approximately the first 1ft of "tubing" from the anus upwards), however minor amounts of it can be lodged in this area. If you are unwilling to risk any hint of fecal matter a pre-sex enema is the only option.
I'd suggest engaging in non-penetrating anal play at first. Work this into your normal foreplay. Simply caressing the anus with a finger or tongue works best. It is important to proceed with caution at all times, as your partner may become uncomfortable, or simply change their mind. Assuming all goes well, you can move from simple touching to minor penetration. Before this is done it is absolutely imperative that you use some form of lubrication. The anus, unlike the vagina, does not generally secrete a sufficient amount of lubricant for sex. When picking an anal lubricant, I recommend avoiding anything that advertises itself as "heating" or "warming" oil/lube. Again, the anal cavity is highly sensitive and "warming" liquids may not be so comfortable.
Once you have applied the lubricant, GO SLOW! Gently, and slowly insert something small, like a finger. Always be watching your partner for feedback. If they are not comfortable stop immediately. Even if all is going well, go slowly. As your partner adjusts to the sensation they will relax. You may be able to proceed with additional fingers, or even on to penile penetration. However, slow and steady wins the race.
When receiving anal sex, especially at first, it is normal to have the sensation that you're about to "go #2." The nerves in this area send that signal when they are triggered. This feeling will usually subside after a short period.
Also, its worth mentioning that there are inherent risks with anal play. First, it is the anus, and as I mentioned earlier, some degree of fecal matter is unavoidable. Follow my suggestions above to reduce this risk. When having anal sex, you should never transfer your toy/penis from the anus to the vagina/mouth. While popular in pornography, it is actually a prime way to expose your partner to bladder infections at best, e.coli infections etc. It is also highly advisable to wear a condom, as you may expose yourself to a bladder infection if you do not. Pregnancy is a non-issue with anal sex, however risks for STD's can be even higher than with vaginal intercourse. Simply put, safe sex is a must for anal sex for the benefit of both partners.
Carefully.
You should always make sure that you have A LOT of lube because that is very important. I would recommend ASTROGLIDE as the best for anal. The person on the receiving end is th eone who should be in control. Remember that the first time will be very painful for them, just like if they are a woman, vaginal sex was painful the first time around. Go slow and listen to what the person says. I would push it in very gently for a couple seconds and then wait. Then pull out and push it back in a little further and wait. It is really all about good communication.
Additional Input:
For many people, anal sex is the ultimate taboo. In the 1990's, anal sex has been given the bad rap because HIV, the virus that causes AIDS, is most easily transmitted by anal intercourse.
But some people love anal sex. Others hate it. Others haven't tried it yet and are curious. And many people are attracted to it precisely because it's so taboo and mysterious.
What is analingus?
One other part of the body that some people enjoy licking, or having licked, is the anus. The anus has half the nerve endings in the pelvic region and many people find touching it to be sexually arousing.
The anus and rectum carry many diseases that live quite benignly in your lower digestive tract, but which can be harmful in your mouth or stomach. Performing analingus is a very risky behavior for a variety of bacterial infections. Refer to the section on safer sex techniques for ways to protect yourself if you or your partner enjoys this activity.
Does anal sex hurt?
Anal sex should not hurt. If it hurts, you're doing it wrong. With enough lubricant and enough patience, it's entirely possible to enjoy anal sex as a safe and fulfilling part of your sex life. However, some people may never like it, and if your lover is one of those people, respect their limits. Don't force the idea upon them.
Can anal sex actually give pleasure?
The pleasure of anal sex is derived from many things. Doing something "nasty" appeals to many people, especially about sex. Doing something different to spice up a sex life that has become something of a bore can be part of it. And the physical sensations available during anal sex are uniquely different from anything else. The rectum is lined with nerve endings, some of which signal the brain to 'reward' you with good feelings when stimulated. For men, the prostate gland can be a source of powerful pleasure. And for a thrusting penis, the ring of the anus can be a new and strong sensation to enjoy.
What do I need to have anal sex?
The most important pieces of advice anyone can give on anal sex are: lubricants, condoms, and patience. The most commonly available lubricant is KY-Jelly, a greaseless, odorless substance available at most drug stores. Better lubricants include Astroglide, ID, Wet, or ForePlay, some of which are available at better drug stores, and most of which are available in some form at adult toy stores.
Do not buy anything that is oil-based. Make sure the lubricant you buy is rated "condom compatible." Nothing else will do. Oil-based lubricants such as Vaseline or baby oil will destroy a condom long before you're done having sex. And many oil-based sub-stances will coat the lining of the rectum, providing a haven for many potential infections.
Do I have to use a condom?
Even if you're sure that both you and your partner are disease- free, you should still use a condom. The rectum is home to lots of infectious bacteria that can cause burning and urethritis of the penis. It will also help you clean up afterward.
I'm worried that anal sex will be messy.
Anal sex should not be messy. Most first-timers fear that it will be, but most people can tell when they have to go. A condom will help with cleanup, of course, and if you're really concerned, a commercial enema, like Fleet, will help beforehand.
How do we prepare for anal sex?
Patience is the third and final thing you need to make anal sex possible. Initial penetration is always the most difficult part of anal sex -- the anus is a tight ring of flesh at the opening of the rectum designed to control the elimination of bodily waste. It is partially under voluntary control, and partially reflexive to stimulation. Your partner has to relax, and you have to go slow to coax it into opening enough to receive your penis.
Start with a well-lubricated finger or a slim (smaller than your penis) dildo. The dildo is more realistic, but your fingers can flex and feel what they're doing inside her ass. Slide one finger in slowly, letting her adjust to it. Take your finger all the way out, then push it back in again. Give her anus time to get used to this kind of activity. Then slide a second finger in. Consider how big your penis is and realize that two fingers is probably enough.
What position should we use for anal sex?
For actual intercourse, picking a position can be important. Many women want to be on top, to regulate how fast penetration occurs. Other like to lie on their stomachs, or crouch doggy-style, or to be penetrated while lying on their sides. Choose what's best before you start.
As always, control yourself. Take your time and use lots of lubricant. People who like anal sex say that "too much lube is almost enough." Listen to her -- if she tells you it starts to hurt, back off.
Eventually, a time will come during your lovemaking where her anus will relax enough to allow the head of your cock to 'pop' into her. If she is completely relaxed, that pop should feel completely painless. Now just because you're inside her is no reason to start pounding away like mad. Let her body adjust. Take your time. Eventually you will both be ready for more.
Can I get pregnant from anal sex?
It is not technically possible to get pregnant from anal sex; there is no way for semen to get from the rectal tract to the vaginal tract.
However, anal sex is still not a very good method of birth control. Semen leaking from the anus after intercourse may drip across the perineum (the short stretch of skin separating vulva and anus) and cause what is known as a 'splash' conception. The failure rate for this is surprisingly high! 8% of couples of who use anal sex as a method of birth control have babies each year.
What if I don't like it?
You may find that anal sex just isn't for you. That's fine. Nothing says that you have to indulge in something that doesn't make you feel good.
If you mean how you can perform anal sex all you have to do is to insert your erect penis in her butt/anus and go "in and out" that's all!
P.S. and don't forget to use a condom!
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