What should you do if your sister is a narcissist?

Answer 1

From a person who has a sociopath sister. My advice.

1. read up on sociopaths, especially the book, "The Sociopath Next Door"

2. celebrate that now you know why she treated you so badly, and that you can see it for what it is... really her defect and not yours.

3. realise you have never HAD a "real" sister, a caring, loving or well meaning sister.

4. Protect yourself. Slowly start to disengage. Dont share anything vulnerable with her any more.

5. Come to terms with the fact they rarely change, heal and that you probably will never have her for a real mutual relationship of caring in the future either.

6. Stop allowing her to damage you in any way. Set limits. Withdraw.

7. Tell someone else, so that you have some support.

8. Support other family members who she undermines or attacks.

9. Consider educating the other family members so as to warn them.

10. Go slowly. Sociopaths are not to be taken lightly.

11. In the end, a total separation from them may be the most positive thing for you. They are toxic to be around.

Answer 2

Selfish Sister! Don't ever think that your sister is the only selfish person in the world! Inately everyone of us is born selfish. But most of us have learned to restrain our selfishness when we realize that it keeps us from getting along with others. For very few people respond positively to a selfish person. Tell your sister specifically at the time when she acts selfishly that she should consider how you feel about the matter. Also inform her that to get along with you, she should sometimes consider your wishes. Read more about relationships in the book recommendations #2 and #6 on my Bio Page.

Answer 3

I can only suggest on how to protect yourself from an adult sister who is a Malignant narcissist. After years of living with her attacks on my reputation and her manipulative behavior, I have come to the decision that I am enforcing a NO CONTACT rule. I lost my mother this past year, which brought the family together. The games she played, the way she behaved towards my mother (because of her paranoia of death and losing her) was unconscionable. She tried to sabotage my relationship with my father several times. She will not change now or ever. My other two siblings will not abandon her. My younger sister is a histrionic narcissist and my older brother just does and agrees with anything she says. He also is married to a narcissist.

I am go to run far and fast and get away while I can. No one needs this kind of abuse in their lives.

Answer 4

Ignore them and then they will probably stop don't get mad that makes them keep doing it