I heard that soaking in an oatmeal bath would help ease the itching. Try looking for Aveeno's oatmeal bath. It might help.
You could possibly have thrush a common complaint, just go to the doctor explain the symptoms and they will let you know what to go from the chemist
An allergic reaction could cause this or a number of infections, which are not necessarily passed on by having sexual contact. Do not be ashamed to talk to your doctor. They can refer you to a nurse...
if a cut is itching soak it in baking soda it should help but may sting a little
The best way is ice no doubt but you can use anti-inflamitory drug
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