How do you tell your best friend that you're a lesbian?

Answer 1

Information as follows is necessary to be able to answer this question:

- How long you have been friends.

- Whether she is friendly towards other lesbian/gay/bi friends.

But, if she is a true friend and worth keeping, she will not mind and will support you no matter to what gender you're sexually inclined.

• Speaking as a Lesbian myself; telling straight friends is the hardest thing to do. you spend hours and hours going over it in your head. I went to a Christian school and as you can tell it didn't go down that well, truth is I lost quite a few friends, it's hard at first but you realize later that it's their problem and your friendship wasn't really that important to them, and who wants friends like that. I disagree with the person below me. If you hold hands and cuddle or whatever then tell her she'll freak out, think you're coming on to her and run for the hills. Last year I started at a new school and everyone knows about my sexuality there. At first I denied it because I wasn't sure how it would go down seeing as my past experiences weren't that good. I sent a text message to my best friend from my new school one night and she fully excepted it. It was such a relief to get it out to her. It sucks feeling like you have to bottle all that up. When I started to reveal it to everyone else it was easier knowing I'd always have my best friend with me to stand up for me. All the girls are completely cool with it and treat me no different and I'm as proud as heck about it now. I'm not saying this will be your case but I hope that it is. A persons sexuality has got nothing to do with their personality but people are selfish and pig headed. I recommend doing it in a letter or text or something not too confrontational. It gives them time to think about it. Give it some time and let her come to you first. I'm sorry if this hasn't helped you, let me know how you go if you haven't told her already.

• If she is a lesbian, then don't worry about it; just tell her. She'll be happy. If she's straight, then it depends on how comfortable she is around lesbians and gay people. Does she have any other friends who are lesbians? If she's one of those homophobic people, then it's probably best if you just don't tell her. But if she's a homophobic, then she's probably a stuck-up prep, and I'm guessing she wouldn't be your friend to begin with. Don't just spring it on her (so don't listen to the answer above me). Do something to make her wonder first. Like you could hold her hand or just cuddle with her, and see how she reacts. If she seems comfortable with that, then go ahead and tell her. If she doesn't seem comfortable, then wait a while. The best people to get advice from are other lesbians. Talk to a lesbian that you trust at least a little bit, enough that she won't tell your friend before you do, and just ask her how you should tell your friend. If you actually decide to tell her, do it sometime when you are alone and comfortable. I know this will sound weird, but people are more comfortable expressing themselves honestly in the dark. So maybe outside at night, or when you are sleeping over at her house or something. Or if you're talking to her on the phone late at night, and she isn't doing anything other than talking to you.

• By now I'm sure your friend has some suspicions, but hasn't approached you about it. If she is straight and you are good friends then you being a Lesbian should have no bearing on your friendship. It doesn't change who you are inside. Keep your personal life to yourself unless she is interested enough to ask. I have Lesbian friends and we get along just fine. One lady is particular was a nurse that looked after my father during the early 70s. She was a great nurse and was the only one that could get my dad to laugh while in hospital. I kept in touch with her until she passed away.

• The last thing a heterosexual wants is someone rubbing up against them. That is a violation of personal space. being cuddly can give the wrong impression. She may have had her suspicions but do you really want her thinking the crush is on her? No and this advice is coming from a bisexual. I agree with number one's answer and number three's. Number two you have some good points but you mustn't forget that not all heterosexuals are okay with us lesbians, bisexuals and gays. I agree we shouldn't spring it on your friend at all; it should be a quiet and private space where the two of you can talk together, alone, without being overheard, but please, don't cuddle up to them or touch them unless you two are good enough friends that holding hands is okay between you two. Do not cuddle. Your friend will be very surprised and may react either way. you must give them some space and breathing room because the last thing a person wants when an elephant has been dropped on their chest is their friend squeezing them with hugs to death. When confronted like that some people snap or lash out. be polite and give your friend some space. be accommodating and patient with them. when they are ready they will react and take the news either way. If things go well you'll hug and go one with your lives, stronger and better friends; if not and it's a very negative reaction give them space and they may come back to you in a better thinking mood. or they may not. If your friend leaves you, it's OK. There will be new friends. if a person can't accept you as you are, then they were never really your friend.

• Okay, Coming from a bisexual, I wouldn't tell her straight up. Play a joke on her, then when you tell her it was a joke, also tell her your gay, as if you were playing another joke on her. See how she reacts. If she takes it badly, tell her you were joking again, if she takes it okay, then come out to her. That is the easiest way. I just told my BFF this month, and that is what I did. But I do recommend telling the jokes, and the truths, through texting, IM, or e-mail. This will give them some time to think it through before they see you again. Also, expect it to be a little akward for like the first week. After a week she should pretty much be over it. And if she is truly your friend, then she won't really care that you are gay.

Answer 2

I have had a couple of female friends that were playing for the other team. One of them told me by just tossing it out there while watching a movie, hey im into girls. If he is a friend and wasn't a total shut-in his whole life you should be able to just put it out there. He might take a second or two to comprehend, but shouldn't be a problem.

Answer 3

if you think he is strong minded and can take it then just tell him straight out. if he is the sensitive type, then try to drop some hints. if you have friends that are openly gay then hang out with them more often and eventually tell him you think you might be a lesbian. most guys will think its hot anyway.

Answer 4

If you are a girl and in a relationship with a girl and you are lesbian, she will probably already suspect this. After all, you would not usually be going out with a girl unless you were attracted to them.

If you initially told your girlfriend that you are bisexual, but want to tell her now that you are lesbian, this should not be a challenge. A simple talk with her will make her aware of the fact and little should change about the relationship. When communicating in relationships, always remember to be honest, open, respectful and understanding.

Answer 5

If your not sure how he is gonna take it jokeingly ask him " ... what do you think about a bout lesbians?" and if you get a good or okay responds ask him " wel how would you feel if i told you i was a lesbian and that is why we can't be together" and if you get a bad responds say "oh i was just asking no need to get hostile hahaha"

:)

Answer 6

• If the girl you are interested in is straight then leave her alone. It would wrong into trying to seduce her into a bisexual relationship. If you persist you could lose a good friendship.

Answer 7

First U Need Time Alone

Make Sure U Tell The Truth. Boys Hate It

Phone Him Up And Meet UP

Tell Him And Say Sorry

Make Sure U said U still want 2 be freinds

Answer 8

You tell him immediately, and break off the relationship. Each day you wait makes it more difficult, and causes more harm to both of you.