How do you turn a casual relationship with a guy who is a player into a serious relationship when you both know you are right for each other?

Answer 1

It's simple... you don't. If you think you can change someone, or want to, it'll never work. He has to figure it out on his own.

If you are clever, you'll make him come after you.

[Comment: Players WON'T come after you, no matter how clever you are! If he comes after you, he's not a player. (Assuming he already had plenty of sex from you.)]

Enjoy it! A casual relationship with a player can be turned into a serious relationship! I prayed! I also read a book called 'Getting To I Do' by Patricia Allen. It was a long haul but it worked!

Be honest and straightforward. If he feels the same way, he'll be more than happy to hear it. If not then it's best to get the facts straight as early as possible. Either way, tell him.

If you're already in a casual relationship with this player, the dynamics have already been set. He might find you attractive, but not serious relationship material. He's getting what he wants from you.

If you want a serious relationship with someone, be clear on this. Don't have sex with them early on, and if they say they aren't into relationships or marriage, they mean it.

You feel you are right for him, but you don't know how he feels. Players (both male and female) tend to say things to flatter the person or people they are currently interested in. He may keep several people on a line by saying "afraid of his feelings", "isn't ready for a relationship" and other various bullsh*t lines.

The person dating or sleeping with the player thinks she can somehow change his mind, reform him, get him into a comitted relationship. It almost never works.

the above poster has given you the best perfect advice, and its all true, its your choice if you listen to it or not, but the fact is you cant get a player into a serious relationship, they are about playing- there is a reason for it being called that- game playing-your part of his game, is that really what you want from a relationship?

he wont change until HE wants to change, you wont ever be able to change or convince him. no matter how much you love him or want to have his love, its just not for only you, if he loves you at all, and the only way you will have any kind of relationship with a man like that is if you are fine, really fine, with him seeing other people, and him being half in and half out of your life.

if that's really what you want and are honestly fine with that then you may be right for each other, but if you are not and cant ever be fine with that, then your not right for each other.

A player will tell you anything to keep things as they are, so if he says "I know you're right for me", it has little meaning. IF YOU ASKED HIM then it has NO meaning at all!

Are you sure he's a player? A player plays with your feelings, and knows that he does. Go by your gut.

What are you missing now that you'd get in a serious relationship? What would be different? Be honest to yourself, and if you think he might give it to you, tell him.

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Funny thing is me ad my girlfriend were in the same situation before we started going out and I use to fit the definition of "player" i never cheated but yea. Anyway while we were hooking up she didn't know it but i had fallen for her and the same had happened to her. One night at work she called me and told me she wanted to get exclusive, so i ditched all the other girls and in 2 days we celebrate our first anniversary. It has been the best relationship I have ever been in so just because they fit the "Player" profile doesnt mean they wont settle down when they get a girlfriend.