How does love affect teens emotionally?

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I'm much older now, but teens never change from generation to generation and our feelings are always the same, although the 21st century has freed-up teens more than ever and this can be hard on teens believe it or not. They feel a pressure to emulate what love is and how to act on it. Some guys feel they have to sleep with every girl they see (some are too shy) and some girls feel forced into having sex because they are worried they will lose their boyfriend or they will appear unpopular with their peers (especially their friends.)

It's tough out there for teens because of all the sexually transmitted diseases. Teens see more of the media and what is going on in the world than when I was growing up in the 50s and in ways they do grow up faster and also physically mature more with birth control for girls and hormones in our foods. Advertising agencies aim at the kids re brand name clothing, computer games, cars, sex, body imagine, etc. There are too many choices and too little guidance for teens today. Both parents are generally working or there are many single parents who have to go and work and don't have that 100% quality of time with their teens that we had in the 50s.

All teenagers (no matter what decade they grew up in) are full of ever changing hormones and they can be moody, very dramatic, and young women are really into romance, while others are free-spirited to the point of getting a bad reputation. Like it or not reputations for girls even today is very high and girls that are too free with themselves are talked about and used by some young men (not all.) Even the "bad boy imagine" isn't high on a parent's list for their daughters although some girls think the guy is mysterious and she is madly in love with him and can tame him. Other girls will purposely get pregnant to try and hold their relationship together with their boyfriend, but in most cases if anything the young father will be long gone before she knows what hits her and the relationship is damaged forever.

It's true that teens feel they have all the answers to love or what to do in their lives (I did too) but, of course they don't simply because they haven't had enough experience in life.

There are 3 coming of age films (old ones) that I feel could really relate to the teens today even if it may appear a little corny in comparison to the digital movies. They are a worth see! One is "Rebel Without A Cause" with James Dean, Natalie Wood & Sal Mineo. It's was hot for us teens because for the first time all the misunderstandings our parents had towards us were said right in that movie by James Dean. He was a frustrated, young man, and needed his father's guidance, but his father was hen-pecked by a domineering wife. Natalie was adored by her father while younger, but when she reached her teens (sex was very up-tight back then) and she wanted to sit on her father's knee or give him a kiss he retaliated against her and told her to basically grown up. Both teens were very confused. It hit home even today and relates to teens of any generation. The odd thing about this movie is that all 3 actors died at a relatively young age. James Dean died in his Porche "Lil Bastard" at age 23 (because that's how he felt about himself), Natalie Wood (in her 30s) accidentally drowned (investigation is still on-going into her death) off the coast of Catalina, and Sal Mineo was stabbed to death and they never found the killer. The next movie that was great "Summer of 42" about a young boy during the WWII who was over on a Island where the women and their children would vacation and he was hanging out with his pals. A beautiful young woman (much older than he was) came to the Island and her husband (a soldier) was on Leave for a short time and then had to go back to duty. The boy was falling in love with her (puppy love) and the rest you'll have to watch. It's a beautiful movie. The 3rd movie that also pertains to even today's youth is "Splendor In The Grass" with Warren Beatty & Natalie Wood during the 1920s (flapper era.) Two young people going together, in love, but sex wasn't permitted. "Only bad girls had sex before marriage." The stress on the two young lovers was more than they could bear and the performances of both young actors is worth seeing.

If you think love can be explained whether you are young or older it can't be. You'll know it when it happens and true love is about loyalty, respect, communication long before sex ever enters into it and that's wisdom and maturity!

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