You enable an abuser by putting up with their mind-bending verbal abuse or their physical abuse against you. Abusers seldom go for counseling because they honesty feel they are right (the woman and anything else on their property down to the family dog is theres and no one is going to tell them different.) Abusers often treat women as chattel.
The best thing you can do is head to either your Mental Health or your local "Abused Women's Center" and take their programs. Whether you know it or not you are psychologically confused after all the abuse (be it verbal or physical.) These programs will give you the tools to become strong and not return to the abuser or pick another abusive partner.
Good luck hon Marcy