How long should you wait before you consummate a relationship?

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When you are both ready. In my opinion waiting until marriage is a VERY irresponsible decision because you will be, or hope to be, spending the rest of your life with this person. Knowing you are sexually compatible is extremely important.

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If you mean until you have sex; whenever you are both ready. There is not really a correct answer, each relationship and person is different.

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Wait until you are married. Then you will always know that you know that you know that the relationship is based on a friendship and love and not on physical attraction. And you don' need to "try the shoes on before you buy them", because when you really love someone and they really love you, you can make it fit! I disagree with Leslie - different things are not "right" for different people. Waiting until marriage is the only "right".

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WAIT UNTIL YOU ARE MARRIED.

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When you feel comfortable and actually desire to have sex, and the other person isn't pressuring you. There's nothing wrong, however, with having a lot of enjoyable foreplay without sex, before you actually decide to have a full sexual relationship. Nobody should be pressured or expected to do anything.

There's really no timetable rule, you may want to wait at least 3 months or longer and see if you really feel a connection with the person, or if it's just lust. That is, if they really enjoy being with you as an individual, or if they're just wanting to hop in your pants.

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Boyfriend number one, I made wait 6 months. I don't know if he got it from somewhere else, but he was going to have to wait with me. And as a result we respected each other and became close friends in our relationship. That lasted 7 years but I did not want to get married, I was too young. Boyfriend number 2 I made wait 2 months and we saw each other every single day in those 2 months. I moved in with him (he insisted) after dating for two months and when I moved in we consummated the relationship. We lasted over 4 years. Boyfriend number three has waited for a year (he is off fighting the war for 8 of those months and will be back soon). He as well as I believe that the wait will have been worth it. I wanted to send him off with a little something just before he left and he wanted it (believe me) but we agreed that neither of us were ready to dive that far into the relationship at that level because of the circumstances. Basically even if your partner is ready and you are not, hold out for your best being. You will enjoy it more when you are ready to have sex and so will your partner.

Although waiting till marriage sounds like an illustrious idea regarding sex...it is not at all practical. One must understand that not everyone wants to "get married" and that not all relationships are strictly based on this fact. Encouraging responsible sexual behavior and remembering that sex is a natural instinct is important. Waiting to get to know your partner is an extremely important concept and openly discussing your thoughts should be foremost. Aside from the sex part one should be tested for std's and make sure that they are using condoms. Birth control as well all know does not protect against diseases. If these issues are uncomfortable for you then you may be in trouble if you do so engage in sexual behavior. We are all responsible for our choices, you just have to decide what is best for you and where your thoughts lie on the topic of premarital sex.

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