How were athens ans sparta different?

In term of politics, Athens was a experimental democracy and Spartan an "agonistic" society. See "Agon" a Greek concept having to do with excellence. In short, Sparta was the polar opposite of Athens. In Athens women had no role in sports or athletics. In Sparta, 7-year old girls (like their male counterparts) were removed by the state from the home and placed in barracks were they were trained as warriors. Citizenship, In Sparta, citizenship was achieved by state-tests. In Athens by birth and land ownership. In an agonistic society, everything is about competition and war is the ultimate competition, ergo, everything in Sparta was about military supremacy. Concepts of love, softness, or affection were considered weaknesses and taboo. Marriages were state-arranged; marriage was for procreation of strong soldiers. Married couples in Sparta met only a few times a year for the purpose of procreation. Period. If a man went to battle his wife warned him to win or die on the battlefield. If he looses, don't bother coming home.
Men remained in barracks most of their adult lives. Training included frequent beating to "toughen" them up. Meals might consist of burnt grain and pigs blood so as to teach them endurance on the battlefield. This was very different from Athenian family life and politics.